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Life is short

The only certainty in Life is Death.

Is Death a part of Life

Or is Life a part of Death?

Only thing I’m sure of is we lost too many too young

Robbing us of future memories together

While leaving us of past memories.

Life is short

And Death is a friend we don’t want to see soon.

Let’s not fear Death

Or take life for granted.

We should use our time living to the fullest

But take time to reflect on moments passed.

Life is short

But a Life of Regrets is a long Life to live.

So tell your loved ones you love them

Spend your time wisely

And don’t waste your life living in fear

Or being unhappy.

Life is short

So why waste it hating others?

Death is certain

So why not leave a positive Legacy behind?

Time is all that we are given

So why not be a Blessing to the world

Before our time runs out?

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Until I’m Starving, Getting Out of the Dark: How to Live a Life Full of Success, Wealth, and Happiness, and Vid’s Viddles: Daily Vitamins for the Soul, all available here

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Pain, Passion, and Purpose.

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This week’s spotlight is on a person who helped, 4-U-Nique Publishing and my book, You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving,  transition from being a dream to becoming a reality. Marci Wise is a mother, wife, author, and an adviser whose mission is to help others reach for the stars. Mrs. Wise’s words of wisdom inspired me when I needed them most. I am sure after reading both her interview and her book; you will see why Marci touches so many peoples’ lives.

 

Vid L. Buggs Jr:      What made you want to become an author?

Marci Wise:  I don’t think it was a want as much as a need. For years I was kind of haunted by this inner yearning to express myself – but I was blocked. It wasn’t until I went through my “breakdown to breakthrough” moment that I realized that it was my desire to be “perfect” that was the enemy. It made me paralyzed with fear that I might look stupid, so instead I did nothing. But I looked really great during all those stagnant years! Anyway, I eventually realized that perfectionism was holding me back and letting go of that has really freed me. Now my passion is spreading the word and helping other people to break free of the things that are holding them back. Knowledge is power, as they say.

VLB:   What motivates you to write?

MW:  I hate to see unnecessary struggle. So often people buy into this notion that our worth is tied to our accomplishments, but it takes a long time to reach a goal. What about all those moments in between? Are we not worthy of peace, happiness and contentment along the way? It seems like such a waste – so I decided to say so – and people seem to really respond to this alternate viewpoint, almost as though it has never occurred to them. Giving people permission to shine, right now, just as they are, seems like a powerful way to make the world a better place.

VLB:   Describe your writing style.

MW:  My style is very conversational. I think I’m a combination storyteller and problem-solver. I like to use metaphors and real-life examples to help people relate to my message on a heartfelt level. And I’ve always had a talent for breaking complicated information down into its simplest elements. With my writing, I try to present a logical sequence of information that not only provides information but also motivation. I want to put the fire and enthusiasm back into people’s lives.

 VLB:   Tell us about your book(s). How did you come up with the concept? 

 MW:  I would say the concept found me. During the economic depression I was laid off from my job, and losing that part of my identity threw me into a personal crisis of sorts. I was feeling very disillusioned with life. Little did I know that losing that job would end up being the impetus for an amazing, spiritual growth spurt. The book, Pain, Passion & Purpose, is a very personal chronicle of my own journey through that time and the revelations revealed within. At times it’s very raw and real – at other’s it’s almost magical. It began to take the shape of a how-to manual for getting back to the “real you.” It took me four years to write the book because it’s not just words but blood, sweat and tears. I had to live the lessons before they could be transcribed to the page.

VLB:   What do you think readers will get out of your book(s)?

MW:  I hope that it will offer people the comfort of knowing that they’re not alone in their struggles. We all have those private, vulnerable moments and they’re nothing to be ashamed of. In fact, I think if we would actually allow ourselves to listen to what they’re telling us, instead of chastising ourselves for feeling that way, we would be led to a better life. The book outlines a plan for expressing your whole being, mind, body and spirit, though the use of self-awareness, personal responsibility and Divine inspiration. In the end, it’s about accepting ourselves unconditionally, rediscovering the joyous abandon we had as children, and offering our unique gifts to the world.

VLB:   What are your other goals and aspirations? Do you have another book in the works?

MW:    Pain, Passion & Purpose was a snapshot in time of my own hardest breakthrough moments. Since that time, I feel like a different person. I’m no longer blocked and afraid to take chances – and I’m excited about life again. I’ve gone back to school and am now working as counselor helping people one-on-one, in addition to my writing. I have a couple of partially written manuscripts on my laptop that I will get around to finishing, but life is a learning process and I’ve spend the last few years studying the theories of some of history’s greatest minds. I know this information will add to the depth and integrity of these new projects. I’m excited to put all that I’ve learned to use.

VLB:   Can you tell us about your publishing process?

MW:    For Pain, Passion & Purpose I chose to self-publish in order to preserve the genuine nature of the project. This wasn’t a book written to reach a certain market or fit into a specific genre – it was a heartfelt message that was meant to be. I’ve ghostwritten for traditional publication, but this was a different animal and I knew that it was meant to stay that way, so I went with Createspace. Choosing to self-publish allowed me to control every aspect of the process. I won’t say it wasn’t challenging at times, handling the editing, formatting and cover design, but it was infinitely worth it. I’m proud of the book and pleased with the outcome.

VLB:   Do you have any upcoming events or promotions?

MW:    I am currently finishing up the final semesters of a Master’s program so I’m off the circuit until at least the fall.

VLB:   Where are people most likely to see your works at? 

MW:    Pain, Passion & Purpose is available on Amazon or it can be ordered through Barnes & Noble. Additionally, some libraries stock a copy from time to time.

VLB:   Do you have any advice for writers who want to become published authors?

MW:    Write as much as you can, in any way that you can. This helps to hone your craft and get the flow going that will be needed to bring that book to reality. Articles, short stories, editorials – whatever you can. Also, allot a daily time in your planner for writing your book. This is staggering but I read somewhere that 97% of writers never finish their book! Just keep plugging away and treat yourself with something special with the completion of each chapter. Even if you’re never a best-seller, just completing your book will put you in the coveted 3%.

VLB:   If you could be anything in the world, what would you be?

MW:    That’s tough. I suppose I would just say “a light.” Whether that means I’m informative, inspirational or simply pleasant, I believe that world needs more people who are willing, ready, and able to shine.

VLB:   What are your best tips for dealing with writer’s block and staying creative?

MW:    I think the best advice I ever heard came from writer Anne Lamott who said, “Give yourself permission to write the worst s**t in America.” Getting the words to the page is the hardest part. Once you have that, you can edit and refine it until it shines – but if doubt stops the process then you’ll end up nowhere. To me, creativity means taking chances. Try new things, expose yourself to new experiences. Allowing yourself to feel and experience all the facets of life will add depth and passion to your work.

VLB:   What keeps you busy these days? Editing, writing, family, etc?

MW:    I’ve been blessed with the opportunity to take on a second career with counseling. Yet to me, I don’t see this as a huge divergence from what I’ve been doing. My clients are seeking answers and a better of life, just like my readers. The only difference is that this time I can actually look them in the eye to see if the message is getting through. I’m also looking forward to doing some traveling in the coming years with my husband. The new me knows that there’s an adventure around every bend – and I want to experience as many of them as I can.

Marci, thank you for your time and advice.

To find Marci’s book, Pain, Passion & Purpose, please click on the link below.

https://www.amazon.com/Pain-Passion-Purpose-Escaping-Torment/dp/1475032544/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1484350426&sr=8-2&keywords=pain%2C+passion+%26+purpose

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving and Vid’s Viddles. Copyright© 2017 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2017 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

My Most Embarrassing Moments: There’s a Silver Lining After All.

There aren’t many times in my life where I’ve been embarrassed about something. The few times I have usually came due to my dad yelling, “Boy you better get in this house”, in front of my friends.  I never got too embarrassed or angry with my dad, because deep down I knew he was only saving me from some kind of trouble.  Then there was the time when I was in the 11th grade and I was friends with a young lady who was in college.  One night we were talking on the phone and my calling card ran out. I figured she remembered the rule of, “don’t call me after 11 pm”.  I thought I was safe, so I went to shower and get ready for bed; lo and behold, the phone rings.  I picked up but something was odd, my mom didn’t yell, “Who is calling here at this time of night?”  I must’ve got cocky because I didn’t rush off the phone and it was now almost midnight.  All a sudden I hear someone pick up the phone and before I could say goodbye and save face, my mom is on the phone saying, “You know what time it is? Get off this phone.” Silence! I hear a click and I knew deep down I would never talk to Angelica ever again. I was slightly embarrassed but I was more relieved than anything.  Angelica was a freshman at East Carolina University, who I happened to meet while trying to get her number for my friend. She was more interested in me. She knew I was in high school still, she just thought I was a senior, haha.  I never bothered to correct her because 1) what teenage guy is going to pass up a chance to date a college woman. 2) She was going to school 2 1/2 hours away; which is a long distance when you are in HS. Anyway, my mom saved me the having to tell Angelica I didn’t graduate when June came around because I was only going to the 12th grade.

My most embarrassing moment happened when I was in the 7th grade.  My middle school building was two stories and the entire 7th grade was upstairs.  I hated this because the only time we went downstairs was for lunch, gym, our electives (maybe), and to go home.  Any chance I got to go downstairs I would savor it and take my time getting back to class. One of these days, I was asked to take our class attendance down to the main office. “Oh Joy! I am out this joint.”  As I head downstairs, I decide to channel my intra Tom Cruise from “Risky Business”. (Although, I never seen the movie at that point of my life, I did see ads with the clip of Tom Cruise sliding down the banister from the movie).  I jumped on the banister and slide down but there’s one issue, I’m going way too fast.  I try to land on my feet when I touch the ground but my momentum was too fast. I slid half-way the 8th grade hall. I get up everything is great, no one saw me. Then I hear laughing; I look back and see the whole 8th grade class looking and laughing at me. Even the 8th grade teachers were laughing at me.  I just turned and head to the main office.  Good thing was I didn’t have to face the 8th grade class as I went back to my class. Maybe they will forget what they saw. Nope!!

As I went to lunch that day many of the 8th graders got their laughs on at my expense.  When we came back from lunch, my friend has a note for me.  The note read, “Hi Vid, I saw you sliding down the hall this morning, I think you handled it well. I also think you are cute and I would like you to call me…..”  “Hotdog!  I just got a girlfriend off of the most embarrassing moment of my life”.

From that moment, I always looked for the silver-lining in every situation and I hardly get embarrassed because I always see the bigger picture.

 

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving. Copyright© 2016 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2016 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

How the Underdog Became the Overachiever.

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Meticulous; Perfectionist; Multi-talented; Overachiever! There are the words many use to describe me. Many believe my work ethic and competitive nature come from being the middle child and the only male child in my family. People say being a middle child I had to fight for my parents’ attention which made me work harder and compete with my sisters. This couldn’t be farther from the truth.

Attention is something I never craved. This is over reason I’ve never been comfortable talking about my accomplishments, and why I shy away from the spotlight. Truth is I have always marched to my own beat. As a child and now, I enjoy spending most of my time alone.

My competitiveness is probably a balance of genetics and something I was taught. For many reasons I have always been counted out, doubted, or looked down upon. I was always the smallest kid when playing sports, so most of the time I was picked last and picked on.  Although, I was very smart in school and had a high IQ (gifted area), I struggled with reading and had speech issues.  I remember being pulled out of class to meet with my speech specialist. I dreaded reading out loud in class because I was sure to get laughed at.

Overcoming challenges is in my blood. I overcame my challenges by accepting that I was the underdog. When I was four or five years old, my dad told me I had to work 10 times as hard in order to be accepted in this world. I took what he told me and an attitude of being slighted with me in every situation I faced. Every slight, joke, or doubt anyone cast upon me fueled me. When people didn’t pick me for a sport, I worked hard for many hours; working on multiple skills in that sport. When I became one of the best, I worked even harder, telling myself that others still doubt me.  I read tirelessly and I practiced my speaking endlessly, in order to improve my reading and speech problems.

When I reached high school my guidance counselor told my mom that I wasn’t “smart enough” to participate in advanced academic classes (college prep and AP classes). My mom told me, “You have to prove her wrong”.  She didn’t have to tell me this; I was already dialed in from the moment I heard the phrase, “isn’t smart enough”.  Once again I was being slighted. What was my response? I took interest in any and everything, just to prove how smart I was.

I would finish my work so fast that I would get bored and disrupt the class by talking or walking the halls. I rarely took home homework. My parents, teachers, and friends wondered how I was able to get great grades, be involved in extracurricular activities, and still hang out with my friends; yet I hardly seemed to crack open a book.  I had a secret; my visualization and memorialization skills were above average. All I had to do was to look at something, focus on what I saw for a few moments, and I would remember the image. Due to this, I was able to solve problems and answer questions very quickly. Sometimes too quickly; which led me to miss a plus/minus sign in a math answer or a word when writing.

I applied this skill to everything I did. I basketball, all I had to do is see someone do a move once, visualized myself doing it in slow motion, and then I was able to do the same exact move. Sometimes even faster and better than the person who performed the move. While others slept or partied, I planned, researched, and visualized.  I outworked everyone. I am multi-talented and I accomplished all that I set out to do, because I am very meticulous in my learning process and practice. I am a perfectionist, so I stay up late thinking of ways to improve something or ways to accomplish something in the most efficient way possible. Often, simple blunders will cause me to stay up because I want to figure out why I messed up and how to fix it so it will not happen again.

I push myself to limits that few people dare to push themselves. I can do this because I am willing to work harder, smarter, and more efficient than most people. The words “you can’t” or “you will never”, sticks in my head. Those words ring in my head and because of this I push harder and harder. This is the reason I move in silence and hardly advertise my accomplishments.  Also, because of the doubt thrust upon me, I will never doubt or tell anyone what they can’t achieve.

I am a so called “mover and shaker” because I was blessed with so many God-given abilities; it is my due to use them to the best of my capability. I am an Overachiever because I am the underdog.

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving. Copyright© 2016 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2016 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

Thank God for Music

Ahh, What a week?  Last week was definitely out of the norm for me. I spent most of the week inside due to working on publishing services. I edited a few writers’ work.  Editing is by far my favorite part of the whole book process. It’s amazing to see the process of how something goes from rough draft to being a finished project ready for readers to read. Don’t be fooled, editing is time consuming and has to be handled with precision.

Once I finished the editing assignments I ventured out to book formatting.  Holy smokes, I never thought that something that is so simple could be so complex. I know that’s an oxymoron but if you ever formatted a book to be ready for print, you definitely understand.  Yes I could have hired out to get the book formatted; however, I am a firm believer in if you are going to run a business you must know how to do everything in the business even if you decide to hire out in the future.  Anyway, I spent 15 hours one day formatting; the next day, five or six more hours.  Just when I was almost finished the program I used to format started to act up. (Insert angry face).  I had to start over but because I now had the hang of this formatting thing, it only took me a few hours to get the book finished.

The only thing that kept me sane in this whole process was music. I spent the week listening to music from the 90’s. Probably not the best idea, because I started to reminisce and became sad.  I am love where I am in life at the present, but that music took me back to simpler times.  It took me back to the songs I would listen to before school; took me back to hanging out with friends who have passed away or who for whatever reason do not speak to anymore. Took me back to the girls I dated or those who I had a crush on.  A time in our lives when we were innocent, naive, and not harden by the reality of the world. If I could go back I would just to enjoy those moments even more. I can say that I took those years for granted. I was so ready to leave high school that I never fully appreciated my time with my friends.  I think we all thought that we would always see each other and be around. I think everyone thinks this way when they are in high school.  Thank God for music because at least we can always go back to those times and feel the exact same feelings we had then, now through a song. Even songs that I disliked back then like, Britney Spears- Baby One More Time, brought back special memories. I don’t care how “tough” you claim to be, I guarantee everyone has music from an era that makes them get a little emotional.

My weekend started by holding open gym for my girls’ basketball team.  The parents, players, school community and the coaches are  excited about the upcoming season.  After which, I reached out to friends from high school and college just to catch up.  Sunday, I had a much needed disconnect from most of the world for most of the day. I spent the day meditating, reading, cleaning, listening to music, (of course) and I spent time outside enjoying nature.

Let’s see what this week has in store for me. I think I will put 80’s music on my play-list and actually make it to the gym this week.

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving. Copyright© 2016 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2016 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

Transcending Barriers

If you know me or follow me and my messages, you know that I am about equality and equity.  I have always been bothered by how we as people want what everyone else wants; (Love, Happiness, Success, Security and to be treated Fairly); yet we deprive others of those same wants, needs and rights. I always say, “We are more similar than we are different. Our differences are what make us unique and we are to share our uniqueness and unique talents with the world in a positive manner.”  Seems like we forget all this’ because we are so concerned about Me instead of We.  We don’t forget that it is not the I that makes the world go around, it is the We that makes the world go around.  We need each other in some shape, way or form.

If you look at the news today, you are sure to lose some hope in humanity and love. This is way Sports, Music, Art and Education are important, they transcend barriers. People of all backgrounds can come together and enjoy an event, discuss a subject, and even disagree, but at the end of the day they usually leave the event or conversion about these things in a better place. Take the Olympics for example.  The Olympics were created as an alternative to war, where countries compete against each other to see who were are the best. This tradition is still carried on. Have you noticed how the Olympics have brought people together from all kinds of backgrounds and all kinds of war torn countries? Have you notice the how for the most part everyone is getting along? Even the competitors have put aside their dreams of medaling to help a fallen or injured fellow Olympian (see Abbey D’Agostino).

I say the true spirit of humanity lies within Sports, Education, Fine Arts and yes even Tragedies.  These events are when we usually come together, sharing a pain, love, happiness and forgetting about me and remembering we are the world.

I think it’s time to treat every moment and every interaction as if we are enjoying a sports event, listening to some good music, or learning about a subject that we enjoy.  Heck, let’s listen to some good ole Bob Marley, Beatles or Michael Jackson and come together.

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving. Copyright© 2016 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2016 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

Timing (Rambling of an overly active mind)

Timing is everything! We have heard this saying many times(no pun intended) throughout our lives. However,do we really understand what it means or how do it to our lives? People usually want their needs, wants, desires in the exact moment they happen to think of these “things”. However,Timing is key, because if we get things too soon we may not cherish them. Also, if we get them to late we may not need it anymore. So next time you are cursing out that slow driver in front of you, just stop and thank God for that person because that person my have held you up a split second to avoid something that could have be tragic to you.

Remember, although you do not see it all the time, People are always watching you, so you actions may help or harm others so be mindful.

Be Blessed.

(Please forgive any grammar errors and typos).

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving.Copyright © 2015 vids-world.com. Copyright © 2015 4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.