My Most Embarrassing Moments: There’s a Silver Lining After All.

There aren’t many times in my life where I’ve been embarrassed about something. The few times I have usually came due to my dad yelling, “Boy you better get in this house”, in front of my friends.  I never got too embarrassed or angry with my dad, because deep down I knew he was only saving me from some kind of trouble.  Then there was the time when I was in the 11th grade and I was friends with a young lady who was in college.  One night we were talking on the phone and my calling card ran out. I figured she remembered the rule of, “don’t call me after 11 pm”.  I thought I was safe, so I went to shower and get ready for bed; lo and behold, the phone rings.  I picked up but something was odd, my mom didn’t yell, “Who is calling here at this time of night?”  I must’ve got cocky because I didn’t rush off the phone and it was now almost midnight.  All a sudden I hear someone pick up the phone and before I could say goodbye and save face, my mom is on the phone saying, “You know what time it is? Get off this phone.” Silence! I hear a click and I knew deep down I would never talk to Angelica ever again. I was slightly embarrassed but I was more relieved than anything.  Angelica was a freshman at East Carolina University, who I happened to meet while trying to get her number for my friend. She was more interested in me. She knew I was in high school still, she just thought I was a senior, haha.  I never bothered to correct her because 1) what teenage guy is going to pass up a chance to date a college woman. 2) She was going to school 2 1/2 hours away; which is a long distance when you are in HS. Anyway, my mom saved me the having to tell Angelica I didn’t graduate when June came around because I was only going to the 12th grade.

My most embarrassing moment happened when I was in the 7th grade.  My middle school building was two stories and the entire 7th grade was upstairs.  I hated this because the only time we went downstairs was for lunch, gym, our electives (maybe), and to go home.  Any chance I got to go downstairs I would savor it and take my time getting back to class. One of these days, I was asked to take our class attendance down to the main office. “Oh Joy! I am out this joint.”  As I head downstairs, I decide to channel my intra Tom Cruise from “Risky Business”. (Although, I never seen the movie at that point of my life, I did see ads with the clip of Tom Cruise sliding down the banister from the movie).  I jumped on the banister and slide down but there’s one issue, I’m going way too fast.  I try to land on my feet when I touch the ground but my momentum was too fast. I slid half-way the 8th grade hall. I get up everything is great, no one saw me. Then I hear laughing; I look back and see the whole 8th grade class looking and laughing at me. Even the 8th grade teachers were laughing at me.  I just turned and head to the main office.  Good thing was I didn’t have to face the 8th grade class as I went back to my class. Maybe they will forget what they saw. Nope!!

As I went to lunch that day many of the 8th graders got their laughs on at my expense.  When we came back from lunch, my friend has a note for me.  The note read, “Hi Vid, I saw you sliding down the hall this morning, I think you handled it well. I also think you are cute and I would like you to call me…..”  “Hotdog!  I just got a girlfriend off of the most embarrassing moment of my life”.

From that moment, I always looked for the silver-lining in every situation and I hardly get embarrassed because I always see the bigger picture.

 

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving. Copyright© 2016 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2016 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

Transcending Barriers

If you know me or follow me and my messages, you know that I am about equality and equity.  I have always been bothered by how we as people want what everyone else wants; (Love, Happiness, Success, Security and to be treated Fairly); yet we deprive others of those same wants, needs and rights. I always say, “We are more similar than we are different. Our differences are what make us unique and we are to share our uniqueness and unique talents with the world in a positive manner.”  Seems like we forget all this’ because we are so concerned about Me instead of We.  We don’t forget that it is not the I that makes the world go around, it is the We that makes the world go around.  We need each other in some shape, way or form.

If you look at the news today, you are sure to lose some hope in humanity and love. This is way Sports, Music, Art and Education are important, they transcend barriers. People of all backgrounds can come together and enjoy an event, discuss a subject, and even disagree, but at the end of the day they usually leave the event or conversion about these things in a better place. Take the Olympics for example.  The Olympics were created as an alternative to war, where countries compete against each other to see who were are the best. This tradition is still carried on. Have you noticed how the Olympics have brought people together from all kinds of backgrounds and all kinds of war torn countries? Have you notice the how for the most part everyone is getting along? Even the competitors have put aside their dreams of medaling to help a fallen or injured fellow Olympian (see Abbey D’Agostino).

I say the true spirit of humanity lies within Sports, Education, Fine Arts and yes even Tragedies.  These events are when we usually come together, sharing a pain, love, happiness and forgetting about me and remembering we are the world.

I think it’s time to treat every moment and every interaction as if we are enjoying a sports event, listening to some good music, or learning about a subject that we enjoy.  Heck, let’s listen to some good ole Bob Marley, Beatles or Michael Jackson and come together.

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving. Copyright© 2016 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2016 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

“Can It Be I Stayed Away Too Long?”

Ahh, it’s been awhile since I wrote a blog.  Pretty sad being that this blog is supposed to be about what is going on in my world.  Consistency is key to have success and I have to hold myself accountable no matter what is happening around me.

Over the past few months I have been fortunate to be featured for print and podcast interviews. Some of the interviews dealt with me being an author and my publishing company, some dealt with me being an entrepreneur, some dealt with success and motivation, and others dealt with athletics and training.  I am very blessed to be featured for interviews because they help me achieve my goal of motivating people to be successful in all aspects of life.

Speaking of success, helping people and getting my message out to the masses, I was able to release a short free ebook called Getting Out of the Dark: How to Have a Life Full of Success, Wealth, and Happiness.  I was inspired to write this book due to my followers on Facebook, twitter and personal friends asking how they can achieve their goals. Time management and investing in yourself is a sure way to be successful. This book explains how to start and keep a routine of investing time in yourself and managing your time.  I must admit putting out the ebook kind of eased the pain of pushing back the release date of Vid’s Viddles.

Vid’s Viddles was pushed back due to editing work and I wanted to release it around the time another author that’s signed to 4-U-Nique Publishing was ready to release their book. I figured the added marketing would help their book especially since it would have been their first time publishing a book.  Last week I found out that due to personal issues the author has decided to wait a few months to publish their book. Bummer, however, I and the company aren’t too sad.  The same day we heard this news, we were able to sign author Kevin Bates to the company.  His addition eased the pain a little. Who am I kidding; it eased the pain a lot.

Let’s humor you all some. This summer I was asked to play kickball. Yes my thoughts exactly when I was asked. I haven’t played kickball in years and when I played it wasn’t competitive. They asked me to play because I am fast, so they figured if I could bunt (yes they bunt in kickball), I was quick enough to get on base. Well, I said I’ll give kickball a try. If you know me you know I am super competitive, but with this new sport I decided I would just use it as a learning experience as well as another form of exercise. I must admit I had fun playing. They were right about my speed and getting on base.  I surprised them with my catching ability in the outfield though.  By the end of the season every other team was asking me to play with them next season. I must add that we lost in extra innings of the champion game by a run.

Oh, I must share that I am now the Varsity girls’ basketball coach at the school I was coaching Middle school at the past few seasons. I still have the role of program developer. Everyone associated with the school are happy about the move and looking forward to the season. I’m pretty excited too; however, I have been entertaining the idea of playing basketball again competitively. I have played in leagues over the past months and I played in a tournament with NBA and other pro players and I did my thing. I still have it and everyone was shocked to learn that I just turned 36. With entertaining this thought comes the responsibility to train and workout even harder.  To be honest, I haven’t been consistent with my workouts, so I am sure that is a sign that the idea is just an idea. Besides, I love spending time with my family, building my companies and becoming a better author and speaker.  Also, I couldn’t leave my girls and the basketball program hanging.

Bonus detail, if you know me you know that I usually do not get caught up in the number. Well in late July a friend suggested that I look at the rankings for best-selling books in my genre on Amazon and Smashwords.  You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving, was #28 on Amazon and #9 on Smashwords.  Getting Out of the Dark was #2 most downloading in its genre on Smashwords and #16 out of all the books downloaded on Smashwords(which includes Ibook and Nook sales).  Now it’s not the numbers that I was excited about, it was 1) it showed me that my friend and editor of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving, Marci Wise advice, wisdom and encouragement to me was 100% correct.  2) My book was ahead of Nikki Giovanni’s two books. Nikki Giovanni is one of my inspirations and to be in any list with her book(s) is an honor. Hopefully, soon I will be mentioned with the likes of Nikki Giovanni, James Baldwin and Maya Angelou.

Thank you all for catching up with what’s been going on with me.  I ask you all to check me out on Youtube, Twitter, Instagram,  Facebook

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving. Copyright© 2016 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2016 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

Relationship Status?: It’s Complicated

Years ago, I joined Facebook to stay in touch with family and friends. Once in a while I’d post a positive message as a “status” update or post a “note”. Remember “notes”? Facebook and I share an on again, off again relationship.  I went private on “the book”, yet, damn Mark keep changing the privacy settings. I can call him Mark right? He and his addicting service understands me more than I understand myself.

How does “FB” know that I know Amber or Tom and suggests them as “Friends who I may know”? Who knew Amber, Tom and I attended the same hospital nursery on the same day we all were born. Amber, Tom and I haven’t seen each other since we were 1-day-olds. Mark how did you know I would love this new product that was invented yesterday? You slick dog, you.

Due to your invasive intrusion into my life, I had to step away from this relationship we share. Twitter was more my liking because I could post my thoughts without questions asked or being “poked”. Has anyone found out what’s the true purpose of a “poke”? Sorry, let me get back on track.

I then fell in love with Instagram. Remember “IG” was only for Iphone users? I was starting an exclusive relationship with Instagram. Until I found out “IG” was cheating on me and getting in the bed with Facebook. Facebook, your acquisition of Instagram was the start of a love triangle.

Mark you have me back. I figure I can use Facebook to promote my books, company, and post “status” and video to make others think. Now you tell me I need an author page (Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr.), and a company page (4-U-Nique Publishing) to promote my services and products. (Inserts shameless plug, Go Check Me Out). Very crafty Mark, you have sucked me into having 3 Facebook pages.

Mark, now you have my attention. I will tell you what I see in the Facebook “neighborhood”. As I walk down the street, I see friends who I were once close. These friends are people of different backgrounds and ethnicities. Some people have let their racist and prejudice views come to light in this “neighborhood” due to being able to hide behind a screen. Next, I see those who think they are “holier than thou”, and others who want to be “thugs”. I guess they forget we know who they are.

Across the street are the intellects, and those who are pushing their services, products and businesses. The intellects and the small business owners receive minimal likes and shares. Meanwhile, their next-door neighbors receive hundreds of likes and shares on fight videos and hate speeches they post.

I walk towards my house to post a status update and I see what appears to be a Postal truck. The truck stops near me, someone sends me another game invite! To get to my door, I have to check all of my messages, friend requests (who are these people) and notifications. Most of these notifications are from people who I don’t know. They are just replying to a post I liked.

Damn you Facebook, you are like the drug dealer who keeps supplying us with the product we know isn’t good for us, but we can’t do without.

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving. Copyright© 2016 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2016 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

Survivor

Scared of our beauty, knowledge and power; we have been whipped, chained, enslaved, oppressed and nearly wiped off of the planet. They tell us to forget the injustices of the past; ignore the crimes that are being committed against us in the present. Only to give us a false hope that justice we be served in the future.

Although the physical scars of our ancestors are not present, the psychological scars continue to hunt our very existence. Made to feel inferior by our skin color, gender, age, religion, nationality and who we chose to love. How can anyone expect us to get over that? The affects and effects of being subjected to oppression for centuries just does not go away.

We kill ourselves because we hate to see our reflection in the mirror. If you think I am only speaking about black on black crime or it is just about black and white; then you really have the slightest clue. As humans we hate ourselves so much that we hate each other. Fathers are not around and women not being mothers.

You expect me to be quiet while the world is in dismay. Innocent people are being sent to the penitentiary. Yet most of us are concerned with the latest trend and who is gay. Meanwhile the world’s government is controlling what you are allowed to think, hear or say.

They want us to look at our history and be ashamed; while glorifying and being proud of their history. Our ancestors were Kings, Queens, Chiefs, Warriors, Scholars and Doctors way before there were universities. What is there to be ashamed of? Through all of the oppressions that we have face; we all survived. Hold your head high because we are all Survivors..

 

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving. Copyright © 2015 vids-world.com. Copyright © 2015 4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

The Yellow Brick Road (rough draft)

Change? Everyone wants Change but no one wants to Change. How can change come if everyone thinks that they are perfect and their shit doesn’t stink? When did it become normal for people to point their fingers at others while playing the victim? What gives people the entitlement to do not do anything wrong ever? Refusing to ever say sorry, instead saying ” no one can judge me”.

Everyone wants change as long as they are not the ones that have to take part in the process that brings change. Injustice happens all around us every moment of the day. People talk about the issues but very few take steps that produces change.

Perhaps everyone wants to fit in even though they say they want to be different. Perhaps it has something to do with  the fear of losing others’ respect. Maybe it is the fear of being criticized; loss of a job; being calling a politic or losing popularity.  However, only cowards play “it safe” in life.  The conscience lets us all know what is right or wrong. Those that do not stand against wrong and stand up for what is right are just as much of the problem as the people that are committing the wrongs that are taking place within the world. Those that are aware that change is needed but do not want to be a part of the change are cowards.

 

 

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving.Copyright © 2015 vids-world.com. Copyright © 2015 4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

Timing (Rambling of an overly active mind)

Timing is everything! We have heard this saying many times(no pun intended) throughout our lives. However,do we really understand what it means or how do it to our lives? People usually want their needs, wants, desires in the exact moment they happen to think of these “things”. However,Timing is key, because if we get things too soon we may not cherish them. Also, if we get them to late we may not need it anymore. So next time you are cursing out that slow driver in front of you, just stop and thank God for that person because that person my have held you up a split second to avoid something that could have be tragic to you.

Remember, although you do not see it all the time, People are always watching you, so you actions may help or harm others so be mindful.

Be Blessed.

(Please forgive any grammar errors and typos).

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving.Copyright © 2015 vids-world.com. Copyright © 2015 4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

Random Ramble on Preception and the Beauty of Life

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What is the meaning of Life, Love, Passion and Art?? The meaning of these things are whatever you want them to be. Your perception of your experiences molds you into the person you are and shapes your life. However, stop for a few minutes and take the time to see the beauty of this world, from smell of the flowers, the singing of birds, the actually taste of an orange, the touch of a rain drop and the feel of unconditional love. Sit back and realize although your perception is yours, the world may not perceive things the same way you do.

On my travel to and from Cincinnati, I started to really appreciate the airplane; the great minds behind it, and the gift that produced the ideal of this invention (the birds of the sky). We rarely stop to think in our busy lives, how wonderful life is. Here I am thousands of feet in the air, traveling hundreds of miles per hour, over clouds, houses, the earth. Yet I am breathing in recycled air and there are at least 100 individuals sharing the experience with me; we are one group. Some are scared, some are fearless like myself, others are tired, some engage in conversation, while others are listening to music, reading a book and/or on their laptop. You know the most amazing part is that we are all in harmony. No worries of race, religion or political ideas. You can say we let our own perceptions just for a few hours play second fiddle.

Once the plane landed, we all thanked the pilot/crew and said our best wishes to one another. We step off the plane back to our individual worlds of worry and hurry. What is the worry and hurry for? You can only control what is in your hands. If it is in your hands do the best you can with it, once its out its out. The hurrying will cause you to miss life’s treasures, the essence of a conversation, the sound of a song. Slow Down my friends and enjoy what the beauty of life.

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving.Copyright © 2015 vids-world.com. Copyright © 2015 4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

Never Be Content My Friends…..

If one says they are not satisfied, society looks at this person as if they are unappreciative and unhappy. To be satisfied is to be content. Content is great when talking about one’s emotionally state. However, being content in one’s life isn’t as great. Improvement is what drives humans, so anything opposite of that(content) would be a detriment to our development.

“Contentment brings stagnation which brings death” -Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr.

Those that are into fitness knows that one can never be in shape because once you reach one fitness goal you have to set other fitness goals to maintain or better the shape that you are in. We see this with those that accomplish their goal of gaining or losing weight. Soon as their goal is accomplish they become content and they go back to square one.

Same is true for anyone that works in a professional field. School does not mark the end of your learning which you get a job/start a career; school is just the beginning for those that have jobs/careers. If one does not continue to improve their profession they will soon be replaced.

In order to be successful in any part of your life you must always be in the act of improving. Masters are only Masters because they are students of whatever they are a Master of. Leaders are Leaders because they are servants to others. Change only comes when one seeks to improve a situation or situations. Being content can never produce results. We should be happy and at peace with their accomplishments, however, we should continue to seek ways to become better.

Enjoy life my friends, be happy and at peace but never become Content in your lives.

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving.Copyright © 2015 vids-world.com. Copyright © 2015 4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.