There’s Never Enough

An associate of mine recently shared a business idea with me. After he explained his idea he asked, “Is there too many people in the field? How can I succeed?” I would like to share with you all what I told him because many people struggle with the same question that he asked me.
Many people aren’t living out their goals and dreams because they feel there are too many people doing what they want to do. My answer to this type of thinking is, “There’s never enough”. It isn’t about how many people are doing the same thing you are doing; it’s about what you bring to the table.
Look and you will see thousands of motivational speakers and authors on social media. Should this stop someone from writing a book or posting motivational messages? No! The same goes for those wanting to become lawyers, doctors, athletes, artists, and pursuing any other endeavors. Don’t let numbers stop you from becoming who you want to be. Remember, we all have a story to share and we all inspire others differently. Your story, gifts, products, and services will touch others in ways that the next person isn’t about to do.
Just as there can never be enough love, wealth, success, and happiness; there can never be enough ideas, motivation, books, athletes, lawyers, doctors, entrepreneurs, and so on. It’s about putting your passion into whatever you decide to do and humbly realizing that no one else can do “it” like you do.

 

 

 

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving and Vid’s Viddles. Copyright© 2017 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2017 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

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How Many Times Does A Heart Break?

How many times does a heart break?

Is a heart pieced back together, if so how?

Or, is a broken heart always broken and are we in denial?

Does one cry until their pain is not felt anymore mean their heart is mended?

Or, is it that they push their pain so far down that they have forgotten that their heart is broken?

They say time heals all.

Tell this to the souls who have seen death of a loved one many times.

Ask those whose heart was broken by a former love or one who has fell short of accomplishing their life’s dreams.

Does a broken heart keep breaking into pieces or does a heart turn cold?

Because with so much sadness in the world a heart cannot remain whole.

The only way a heart can keep breaking is by its broken pieces to be broken into more pieces

The only way a heart doesn’t feel pain is by the heart turning cold.

I ask you, can a heart once broken ever be made whole?

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving and Vid’s Viddles. Copyright© 2017 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2017 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

How to Make the”New Year, New Me” Chant into a Reality?

It’s a New Year and we all hear the chants of “New Year, New Me”. Many of us have made New Year Resolutions. History tells us by the third week of the New Year, many of our resolutions will be broken and the chant of “New Year, New Me” becomes a chant of “I’ll become a New Me next year”.

What is the reason many of us fail to live up to our New Year resolutions and goals? Well for starters, many of us fail to realize that a New Year doesn’t bring change to a person’s life. Change happens in a person’s life when they focus on changing daily. How can one change daily? Simple, you have to make daily goals and plans.  We also have to remember old habits die hard. It takes 21 days to break a habit.

Many of us will abort our plans of change because we do not see immediate results. In order for growth to happen, one must be patient. Sow your seeds and remember seeds grow underneath the surface where it cannot be seen. Trees only begin to grow above the surface when the roots below the surface are strong enough to support the tree’s growth.

Plant your daily seeds and by year’s end your seeds and you will grow to become the person you envisioned you would become.

Here are a few things we must do to make 2017 great.

1). Live each day as if it’s your last.

2). Plan for the future, live for the present.

3). Learn from the past and don’t look back.

4). Let your passion guide you.

5). Remember there are lessons learned in our struggles.

6). Stay in your lane. (Mind and tend to your business).

7). Give more. This includes money, talents, time, advice, a helping hand or a listening ear.

8). Let all disputes (beefs) go. Especially if you are 30 plus. If you cannot get along with someone just distance yourself from them.

9). Don’t worry about who others are dating. You aren’t with these people, so why stress over someone who is dating outside of their race, dating someone of the same sex, or someone dating someone with or without money.

10). Cherish everyone who has walked into your life; even if it was for a moment. You may not realize it but these people have taught you valuable lessons in life.

11). Be happy and thankful.

Happy New Year.

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving. Copyright© 2016 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2016 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

My Most Embarrassing Moments: There’s a Silver Lining After All.

There aren’t many times in my life where I’ve been embarrassed about something. The few times I have usually came due to my dad yelling, “Boy you better get in this house”, in front of my friends.  I never got too embarrassed or angry with my dad, because deep down I knew he was only saving me from some kind of trouble.  Then there was the time when I was in the 11th grade and I was friends with a young lady who was in college.  One night we were talking on the phone and my calling card ran out. I figured she remembered the rule of, “don’t call me after 11 pm”.  I thought I was safe, so I went to shower and get ready for bed; lo and behold, the phone rings.  I picked up but something was odd, my mom didn’t yell, “Who is calling here at this time of night?”  I must’ve got cocky because I didn’t rush off the phone and it was now almost midnight.  All a sudden I hear someone pick up the phone and before I could say goodbye and save face, my mom is on the phone saying, “You know what time it is? Get off this phone.” Silence! I hear a click and I knew deep down I would never talk to Angelica ever again. I was slightly embarrassed but I was more relieved than anything.  Angelica was a freshman at East Carolina University, who I happened to meet while trying to get her number for my friend. She was more interested in me. She knew I was in high school still, she just thought I was a senior, haha.  I never bothered to correct her because 1) what teenage guy is going to pass up a chance to date a college woman. 2) She was going to school 2 1/2 hours away; which is a long distance when you are in HS. Anyway, my mom saved me the having to tell Angelica I didn’t graduate when June came around because I was only going to the 12th grade.

My most embarrassing moment happened when I was in the 7th grade.  My middle school building was two stories and the entire 7th grade was upstairs.  I hated this because the only time we went downstairs was for lunch, gym, our electives (maybe), and to go home.  Any chance I got to go downstairs I would savor it and take my time getting back to class. One of these days, I was asked to take our class attendance down to the main office. “Oh Joy! I am out this joint.”  As I head downstairs, I decide to channel my intra Tom Cruise from “Risky Business”. (Although, I never seen the movie at that point of my life, I did see ads with the clip of Tom Cruise sliding down the banister from the movie).  I jumped on the banister and slide down but there’s one issue, I’m going way too fast.  I try to land on my feet when I touch the ground but my momentum was too fast. I slid half-way the 8th grade hall. I get up everything is great, no one saw me. Then I hear laughing; I look back and see the whole 8th grade class looking and laughing at me. Even the 8th grade teachers were laughing at me.  I just turned and head to the main office.  Good thing was I didn’t have to face the 8th grade class as I went back to my class. Maybe they will forget what they saw. Nope!!

As I went to lunch that day many of the 8th graders got their laughs on at my expense.  When we came back from lunch, my friend has a note for me.  The note read, “Hi Vid, I saw you sliding down the hall this morning, I think you handled it well. I also think you are cute and I would like you to call me…..”  “Hotdog!  I just got a girlfriend off of the most embarrassing moment of my life”.

From that moment, I always looked for the silver-lining in every situation and I hardly get embarrassed because I always see the bigger picture.

 

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving. Copyright© 2016 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2016 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

Transcending Barriers

If you know me or follow me and my messages, you know that I am about equality and equity.  I have always been bothered by how we as people want what everyone else wants; (Love, Happiness, Success, Security and to be treated Fairly); yet we deprive others of those same wants, needs and rights. I always say, “We are more similar than we are different. Our differences are what make us unique and we are to share our uniqueness and unique talents with the world in a positive manner.”  Seems like we forget all this’ because we are so concerned about Me instead of We.  We don’t forget that it is not the I that makes the world go around, it is the We that makes the world go around.  We need each other in some shape, way or form.

If you look at the news today, you are sure to lose some hope in humanity and love. This is way Sports, Music, Art and Education are important, they transcend barriers. People of all backgrounds can come together and enjoy an event, discuss a subject, and even disagree, but at the end of the day they usually leave the event or conversion about these things in a better place. Take the Olympics for example.  The Olympics were created as an alternative to war, where countries compete against each other to see who were are the best. This tradition is still carried on. Have you noticed how the Olympics have brought people together from all kinds of backgrounds and all kinds of war torn countries? Have you notice the how for the most part everyone is getting along? Even the competitors have put aside their dreams of medaling to help a fallen or injured fellow Olympian (see Abbey D’Agostino).

I say the true spirit of humanity lies within Sports, Education, Fine Arts and yes even Tragedies.  These events are when we usually come together, sharing a pain, love, happiness and forgetting about me and remembering we are the world.

I think it’s time to treat every moment and every interaction as if we are enjoying a sports event, listening to some good music, or learning about a subject that we enjoy.  Heck, let’s listen to some good ole Bob Marley, Beatles or Michael Jackson and come together.

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving. Copyright© 2016 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2016 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

“Can It Be I Stayed Away Too Long?”

Ahh, it’s been awhile since I wrote a blog.  Pretty sad being that this blog is supposed to be about what is going on in my world.  Consistency is key to have success and I have to hold myself accountable no matter what is happening around me.

Over the past few months I have been fortunate to be featured for print and podcast interviews. Some of the interviews dealt with me being an author and my publishing company, some dealt with me being an entrepreneur, some dealt with success and motivation, and others dealt with athletics and training.  I am very blessed to be featured for interviews because they help me achieve my goal of motivating people to be successful in all aspects of life.

Speaking of success, helping people and getting my message out to the masses, I was able to release a short free ebook called Getting Out of the Dark: How to Have a Life Full of Success, Wealth, and Happiness.  I was inspired to write this book due to my followers on Facebook, twitter and personal friends asking how they can achieve their goals. Time management and investing in yourself is a sure way to be successful. This book explains how to start and keep a routine of investing time in yourself and managing your time.  I must admit putting out the ebook kind of eased the pain of pushing back the release date of Vid’s Viddles.

Vid’s Viddles was pushed back due to editing work and I wanted to release it around the time another author that’s signed to 4-U-Nique Publishing was ready to release their book. I figured the added marketing would help their book especially since it would have been their first time publishing a book.  Last week I found out that due to personal issues the author has decided to wait a few months to publish their book. Bummer, however, I and the company aren’t too sad.  The same day we heard this news, we were able to sign author Kevin Bates to the company.  His addition eased the pain a little. Who am I kidding; it eased the pain a lot.

Let’s humor you all some. This summer I was asked to play kickball. Yes my thoughts exactly when I was asked. I haven’t played kickball in years and when I played it wasn’t competitive. They asked me to play because I am fast, so they figured if I could bunt (yes they bunt in kickball), I was quick enough to get on base. Well, I said I’ll give kickball a try. If you know me you know I am super competitive, but with this new sport I decided I would just use it as a learning experience as well as another form of exercise. I must admit I had fun playing. They were right about my speed and getting on base.  I surprised them with my catching ability in the outfield though.  By the end of the season every other team was asking me to play with them next season. I must add that we lost in extra innings of the champion game by a run.

Oh, I must share that I am now the Varsity girls’ basketball coach at the school I was coaching Middle school at the past few seasons. I still have the role of program developer. Everyone associated with the school are happy about the move and looking forward to the season. I’m pretty excited too; however, I have been entertaining the idea of playing basketball again competitively. I have played in leagues over the past months and I played in a tournament with NBA and other pro players and I did my thing. I still have it and everyone was shocked to learn that I just turned 36. With entertaining this thought comes the responsibility to train and workout even harder.  To be honest, I haven’t been consistent with my workouts, so I am sure that is a sign that the idea is just an idea. Besides, I love spending time with my family, building my companies and becoming a better author and speaker.  Also, I couldn’t leave my girls and the basketball program hanging.

Bonus detail, if you know me you know that I usually do not get caught up in the number. Well in late July a friend suggested that I look at the rankings for best-selling books in my genre on Amazon and Smashwords.  You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving, was #28 on Amazon and #9 on Smashwords.  Getting Out of the Dark was #2 most downloading in its genre on Smashwords and #16 out of all the books downloaded on Smashwords(which includes Ibook and Nook sales).  Now it’s not the numbers that I was excited about, it was 1) it showed me that my friend and editor of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving, Marci Wise advice, wisdom and encouragement to me was 100% correct.  2) My book was ahead of Nikki Giovanni’s two books. Nikki Giovanni is one of my inspirations and to be in any list with her book(s) is an honor. Hopefully, soon I will be mentioned with the likes of Nikki Giovanni, James Baldwin and Maya Angelou.

Thank you all for catching up with what’s been going on with me.  I ask you all to check me out on Youtube, Twitter, Instagram,  Facebook

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving. Copyright© 2016 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2016 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

Relationship Status?: It’s Complicated

Years ago, I joined Facebook to stay in touch with family and friends. Once in a while I’d post a positive message as a “status” update or post a “note”. Remember “notes”? Facebook and I share an on again, off again relationship.  I went private on “the book”, yet, damn Mark keep changing the privacy settings. I can call him Mark right? He and his addicting service understands me more than I understand myself.

How does “FB” know that I know Amber or Tom and suggests them as “Friends who I may know”? Who knew Amber, Tom and I attended the same hospital nursery on the same day we all were born. Amber, Tom and I haven’t seen each other since we were 1-day-olds. Mark how did you know I would love this new product that was invented yesterday? You slick dog, you.

Due to your invasive intrusion into my life, I had to step away from this relationship we share. Twitter was more my liking because I could post my thoughts without questions asked or being “poked”. Has anyone found out what’s the true purpose of a “poke”? Sorry, let me get back on track.

I then fell in love with Instagram. Remember “IG” was only for Iphone users? I was starting an exclusive relationship with Instagram. Until I found out “IG” was cheating on me and getting in the bed with Facebook. Facebook, your acquisition of Instagram was the start of a love triangle.

Mark you have me back. I figure I can use Facebook to promote my books, company, and post “status” and video to make others think. Now you tell me I need an author page (Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr.), and a company page (4-U-Nique Publishing) to promote my services and products. (Inserts shameless plug, Go Check Me Out). Very crafty Mark, you have sucked me into having 3 Facebook pages.

Mark, now you have my attention. I will tell you what I see in the Facebook “neighborhood”. As I walk down the street, I see friends who I were once close. These friends are people of different backgrounds and ethnicities. Some people have let their racist and prejudice views come to light in this “neighborhood” due to being able to hide behind a screen. Next, I see those who think they are “holier than thou”, and others who want to be “thugs”. I guess they forget we know who they are.

Across the street are the intellects, and those who are pushing their services, products and businesses. The intellects and the small business owners receive minimal likes and shares. Meanwhile, their next-door neighbors receive hundreds of likes and shares on fight videos and hate speeches they post.

I walk towards my house to post a status update and I see what appears to be a Postal truck. The truck stops near me, someone sends me another game invite! To get to my door, I have to check all of my messages, friend requests (who are these people) and notifications. Most of these notifications are from people who I don’t know. They are just replying to a post I liked.

Damn you Facebook, you are like the drug dealer who keeps supplying us with the product we know isn’t good for us, but we can’t do without.

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving. Copyright© 2016 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2016 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.