How the Underdog Became the Overachiever.

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Meticulous; Perfectionist; Multi-talented; Overachiever! There are the words many use to describe me. Many believe my work ethic and competitive nature come from being the middle child and the only male child in my family. People say being a middle child I had to fight for my parents’ attention which made me work harder and compete with my sisters. This couldn’t be farther from the truth.

Attention is something I never craved. This is over reason I’ve never been comfortable talking about my accomplishments, and why I shy away from the spotlight. Truth is I have always marched to my own beat. As a child and now, I enjoy spending most of my time alone.

My competitiveness is probably a balance of genetics and something I was taught. For many reasons I have always been counted out, doubted, or looked down upon. I was always the smallest kid when playing sports, so most of the time I was picked last and picked on.  Although, I was very smart in school and had a high IQ (gifted area), I struggled with reading and had speech issues.  I remember being pulled out of class to meet with my speech specialist. I dreaded reading out loud in class because I was sure to get laughed at.

Overcoming challenges is in my blood. I overcame my challenges by accepting that I was the underdog. When I was four or five years old, my dad told me I had to work 10 times as hard in order to be accepted in this world. I took what he told me and an attitude of being slighted with me in every situation I faced. Every slight, joke, or doubt anyone cast upon me fueled me. When people didn’t pick me for a sport, I worked hard for many hours; working on multiple skills in that sport. When I became one of the best, I worked even harder, telling myself that others still doubt me.  I read tirelessly and I practiced my speaking endlessly, in order to improve my reading and speech problems.

When I reached high school my guidance counselor told my mom that I wasn’t “smart enough” to participate in advanced academic classes (college prep and AP classes). My mom told me, “You have to prove her wrong”.  She didn’t have to tell me this; I was already dialed in from the moment I heard the phrase, “isn’t smart enough”.  Once again I was being slighted. What was my response? I took interest in any and everything, just to prove how smart I was.

I would finish my work so fast that I would get bored and disrupt the class by talking or walking the halls. I rarely took home homework. My parents, teachers, and friends wondered how I was able to get great grades, be involved in extracurricular activities, and still hang out with my friends; yet I hardly seemed to crack open a book.  I had a secret; my visualization and memorialization skills were above average. All I had to do was to look at something, focus on what I saw for a few moments, and I would remember the image. Due to this, I was able to solve problems and answer questions very quickly. Sometimes too quickly; which led me to miss a plus/minus sign in a math answer or a word when writing.

I applied this skill to everything I did. I basketball, all I had to do is see someone do a move once, visualized myself doing it in slow motion, and then I was able to do the same exact move. Sometimes even faster and better than the person who performed the move. While others slept or partied, I planned, researched, and visualized.  I outworked everyone. I am multi-talented and I accomplished all that I set out to do, because I am very meticulous in my learning process and practice. I am a perfectionist, so I stay up late thinking of ways to improve something or ways to accomplish something in the most efficient way possible. Often, simple blunders will cause me to stay up because I want to figure out why I messed up and how to fix it so it will not happen again.

I push myself to limits that few people dare to push themselves. I can do this because I am willing to work harder, smarter, and more efficient than most people. The words “you can’t” or “you will never”, sticks in my head. Those words ring in my head and because of this I push harder and harder. This is the reason I move in silence and hardly advertise my accomplishments.  Also, because of the doubt thrust upon me, I will never doubt or tell anyone what they can’t achieve.

I am a so called “mover and shaker” because I was blessed with so many God-given abilities; it is my due to use them to the best of my capability. I am an Overachiever because I am the underdog.

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving. Copyright© 2016 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2016 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

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Thank God for Music

Ahh, What a week?  Last week was definitely out of the norm for me. I spent most of the week inside due to working on publishing services. I edited a few writers’ work.  Editing is by far my favorite part of the whole book process. It’s amazing to see the process of how something goes from rough draft to being a finished project ready for readers to read. Don’t be fooled, editing is time consuming and has to be handled with precision.

Once I finished the editing assignments I ventured out to book formatting.  Holy smokes, I never thought that something that is so simple could be so complex. I know that’s an oxymoron but if you ever formatted a book to be ready for print, you definitely understand.  Yes I could have hired out to get the book formatted; however, I am a firm believer in if you are going to run a business you must know how to do everything in the business even if you decide to hire out in the future.  Anyway, I spent 15 hours one day formatting; the next day, five or six more hours.  Just when I was almost finished the program I used to format started to act up. (Insert angry face).  I had to start over but because I now had the hang of this formatting thing, it only took me a few hours to get the book finished.

The only thing that kept me sane in this whole process was music. I spent the week listening to music from the 90’s. Probably not the best idea, because I started to reminisce and became sad.  I am love where I am in life at the present, but that music took me back to simpler times.  It took me back to the songs I would listen to before school; took me back to hanging out with friends who have passed away or who for whatever reason do not speak to anymore. Took me back to the girls I dated or those who I had a crush on.  A time in our lives when we were innocent, naive, and not harden by the reality of the world. If I could go back I would just to enjoy those moments even more. I can say that I took those years for granted. I was so ready to leave high school that I never fully appreciated my time with my friends.  I think we all thought that we would always see each other and be around. I think everyone thinks this way when they are in high school.  Thank God for music because at least we can always go back to those times and feel the exact same feelings we had then, now through a song. Even songs that I disliked back then like, Britney Spears- Baby One More Time, brought back special memories. I don’t care how “tough” you claim to be, I guarantee everyone has music from an era that makes them get a little emotional.

My weekend started by holding open gym for my girls’ basketball team.  The parents, players, school community and the coaches are  excited about the upcoming season.  After which, I reached out to friends from high school and college just to catch up.  Sunday, I had a much needed disconnect from most of the world for most of the day. I spent the day meditating, reading, cleaning, listening to music, (of course) and I spent time outside enjoying nature.

Let’s see what this week has in store for me. I think I will put 80’s music on my play-list and actually make it to the gym this week.

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving. Copyright© 2016 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2016 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

Transcending Barriers

If you know me or follow me and my messages, you know that I am about equality and equity.  I have always been bothered by how we as people want what everyone else wants; (Love, Happiness, Success, Security and to be treated Fairly); yet we deprive others of those same wants, needs and rights. I always say, “We are more similar than we are different. Our differences are what make us unique and we are to share our uniqueness and unique talents with the world in a positive manner.”  Seems like we forget all this’ because we are so concerned about Me instead of We.  We don’t forget that it is not the I that makes the world go around, it is the We that makes the world go around.  We need each other in some shape, way or form.

If you look at the news today, you are sure to lose some hope in humanity and love. This is way Sports, Music, Art and Education are important, they transcend barriers. People of all backgrounds can come together and enjoy an event, discuss a subject, and even disagree, but at the end of the day they usually leave the event or conversion about these things in a better place. Take the Olympics for example.  The Olympics were created as an alternative to war, where countries compete against each other to see who were are the best. This tradition is still carried on. Have you noticed how the Olympics have brought people together from all kinds of backgrounds and all kinds of war torn countries? Have you notice the how for the most part everyone is getting along? Even the competitors have put aside their dreams of medaling to help a fallen or injured fellow Olympian (see Abbey D’Agostino).

I say the true spirit of humanity lies within Sports, Education, Fine Arts and yes even Tragedies.  These events are when we usually come together, sharing a pain, love, happiness and forgetting about me and remembering we are the world.

I think it’s time to treat every moment and every interaction as if we are enjoying a sports event, listening to some good music, or learning about a subject that we enjoy.  Heck, let’s listen to some good ole Bob Marley, Beatles or Michael Jackson and come together.

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving. Copyright© 2016 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2016 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

I am Hurting.

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I am hurt because after all these years and through all  the tragedies, we haven’t figured out that we are all humans who are similar and who are seeking love, happiness and acceptance. We are more similar than different.

It hurts to see how far we’ve come as a nation but to realize that we have so much farther to go.

It hurts that anytime you speak about the injustices in America, you are labeled as being unpatriotic. As if a person cannot want to see improvements in something or someone they love and care for.

It hurts to see so many of our people treated unjustly, but in the eyes of others they are the subject of blame for the injustices that has occurred against them.  Like telling a rape victim, “if they didn’t wear a dress they wouldn’t have been raped.”

It hurts to see how people react when People of Color and Women protest or march.

It hurts to have to walk out the house, drive a car or enter a store with extra caution, when other people do not have to even think about being cautious at all.

It hurts to be profiled.

It hurts that every time we leave a loved one, the words “be careful” are said because we know the targets that we carry on our backs.

It hurts to see so many people enjoying the music of Nas, Tupac, Bob Marley and Michael Jackson but act as if they are surprised that police brutality and a corrupt justice system exist.

It hurts that there is proof of past corruption in the justice system; proof of corrupt programs and activities lead by our government, yet people will not admit that corruption still happens within our government and justice systems presently.

It hurts to see a man lose his life over cigarettes and the only person arrested for a crime was the man who recorded the murder on video.

It hurts that when people say “Black Lives Matter”, others say “All Lives Matter” in response.  Saying “Black Lives Matter” doesn’t mean Only black lives matter.

In fact, it hurts more when people say “All Lives Matter”.  If All lives mattered than we wouldn’t have people on death row, hunting would be illegal and we wouldn’t be fighting wars. If all lives matter people would speak up when other’s lives and rights were being lost, not just when a cop or dog loses a life.

It hurts that majority of the world see the injustices that take places against “People of Color” in the U. S. but majority of the U.S deny these injustices take place.

It hurts how the media and society portray and try to divide us.

It hurts to associate with so many people who are not taking a stand against the injustices that are taking place.

It hurts that our culture is accepted, misuses and stolen but we as a people are not accepted.

It hurts that we have to use disclaimers in order for others to understand we aren’t talking about “all police, whites, blacks, woman, etc.”

It hurts that I could write until the end of time and you will never understand the hurt I feel and the injustices I experience every day.

What hurts the most is the fact that I had to write this.

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving. Copyright© 2016 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2016 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

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Started from the Bottom

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We’re in an age where many people feel entitled to have success but few want to put in the work to become successful. Some people want to have the outcome but do not want to go through the process needed to reach the desired outcome. Success is like a building, both are started from the ground level, the bottom. It is here where one acquires the lessons, patience and work ethic to becoming and staying successful.

Most of the businessmen and businesswomen in the world started out with small capital.  Many entrepreneurs started out by selling newspapers, snacks, lemonade, fruit, etc.  Mark Cuban often talk about his first business, which was selling garbage bags door to door as a kid. With the money he and other entrepreneurs like him, profited from these small business ventures, they were able to save enough up to start another, bigger venture.

Starting out on the bottom is the same concept successful athletes, musicians, authors, artists, etc. had to follow.  The bottom may mean for some people, going for a mile walk so they can build up the endurance to run a half mile. To get to the top we must go through different levels.

Many times what holds people back from reaching the top level are pride and ego.  Many people are worried about what others may think or say about the process they will have to go through in order to reach their goals.  Others are too lazy to do the work or research needed to be successful. If staying up extra hours to work on your craft or doing research is too much for you, then you will never make it to the top. If you won’t market yourself, business or product; or take risks in order to reach your goals, you will never leave ground level.

When one takes a leap of faith do not let the words of others bother them, everything in the universe will conspire to help them with their life’s mission. Enjoy the process, this is where the real treasure is find. The masterpiece lie within going through the process. The finished product is just a representation of all of your time and sacrifice.

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving. Copyright© 2016 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2016 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

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Relationship Status?: It’s Complicated

Years ago, I joined Facebook to stay in touch with family and friends. Once in a while I’d post a positive message as a “status” update or post a “note”. Remember “notes”? Facebook and I share an on again, off again relationship.  I went private on “the book”, yet, damn Mark keep changing the privacy settings. I can call him Mark right? He and his addicting service understands me more than I understand myself.

How does “FB” know that I know Amber or Tom and suggests them as “Friends who I may know”? Who knew Amber, Tom and I attended the same hospital nursery on the same day we all were born. Amber, Tom and I haven’t seen each other since we were 1-day-olds. Mark how did you know I would love this new product that was invented yesterday? You slick dog, you.

Due to your invasive intrusion into my life, I had to step away from this relationship we share. Twitter was more my liking because I could post my thoughts without questions asked or being “poked”. Has anyone found out what’s the true purpose of a “poke”? Sorry, let me get back on track.

I then fell in love with Instagram. Remember “IG” was only for Iphone users? I was starting an exclusive relationship with Instagram. Until I found out “IG” was cheating on me and getting in the bed with Facebook. Facebook, your acquisition of Instagram was the start of a love triangle.

Mark you have me back. I figure I can use Facebook to promote my books, company, and post “status” and video to make others think. Now you tell me I need an author page (Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr.), and a company page (4-U-Nique Publishing) to promote my services and products. (Inserts shameless plug, Go Check Me Out). Very crafty Mark, you have sucked me into having 3 Facebook pages.

Mark, now you have my attention. I will tell you what I see in the Facebook “neighborhood”. As I walk down the street, I see friends who I were once close. These friends are people of different backgrounds and ethnicities. Some people have let their racist and prejudice views come to light in this “neighborhood” due to being able to hide behind a screen. Next, I see those who think they are “holier than thou”, and others who want to be “thugs”. I guess they forget we know who they are.

Across the street are the intellects, and those who are pushing their services, products and businesses. The intellects and the small business owners receive minimal likes and shares. Meanwhile, their next-door neighbors receive hundreds of likes and shares on fight videos and hate speeches they post.

I walk towards my house to post a status update and I see what appears to be a Postal truck. The truck stops near me, someone sends me another game invite! To get to my door, I have to check all of my messages, friend requests (who are these people) and notifications. Most of these notifications are from people who I don’t know. They are just replying to a post I liked.

Damn you Facebook, you are like the drug dealer who keeps supplying us with the product we know isn’t good for us, but we can’t do without.

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving. Copyright© 2016 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2016 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

Timing (Rambling of an overly active mind)

Timing is everything! We have heard this saying many times(no pun intended) throughout our lives. However,do we really understand what it means or how do it to our lives? People usually want their needs, wants, desires in the exact moment they happen to think of these “things”. However,Timing is key, because if we get things too soon we may not cherish them. Also, if we get them to late we may not need it anymore. So next time you are cursing out that slow driver in front of you, just stop and thank God for that person because that person my have held you up a split second to avoid something that could have be tragic to you.

Remember, although you do not see it all the time, People are always watching you, so you actions may help or harm others so be mindful.

Be Blessed.

(Please forgive any grammar errors and typos).

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving.Copyright © 2015 vids-world.com. Copyright © 2015 4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.