Pain, Passion, and Purpose.

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This week’s spotlight is on a person who helped, 4-U-Nique Publishing and my book, You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving,  transition from being a dream to becoming a reality. Marci Wise is a mother, wife, author, and an adviser whose mission is to help others reach for the stars. Mrs. Wise’s words of wisdom inspired me when I needed them most. I am sure after reading both her interview and her book; you will see why Marci touches so many peoples’ lives.

 

Vid L. Buggs Jr:      What made you want to become an author?

Marci Wise:  I don’t think it was a want as much as a need. For years I was kind of haunted by this inner yearning to express myself – but I was blocked. It wasn’t until I went through my “breakdown to breakthrough” moment that I realized that it was my desire to be “perfect” that was the enemy. It made me paralyzed with fear that I might look stupid, so instead I did nothing. But I looked really great during all those stagnant years! Anyway, I eventually realized that perfectionism was holding me back and letting go of that has really freed me. Now my passion is spreading the word and helping other people to break free of the things that are holding them back. Knowledge is power, as they say.

VLB:   What motivates you to write?

MW:  I hate to see unnecessary struggle. So often people buy into this notion that our worth is tied to our accomplishments, but it takes a long time to reach a goal. What about all those moments in between? Are we not worthy of peace, happiness and contentment along the way? It seems like such a waste – so I decided to say so – and people seem to really respond to this alternate viewpoint, almost as though it has never occurred to them. Giving people permission to shine, right now, just as they are, seems like a powerful way to make the world a better place.

VLB:   Describe your writing style.

MW:  My style is very conversational. I think I’m a combination storyteller and problem-solver. I like to use metaphors and real-life examples to help people relate to my message on a heartfelt level. And I’ve always had a talent for breaking complicated information down into its simplest elements. With my writing, I try to present a logical sequence of information that not only provides information but also motivation. I want to put the fire and enthusiasm back into people’s lives.

 VLB:   Tell us about your book(s). How did you come up with the concept? 

 MW:  I would say the concept found me. During the economic depression I was laid off from my job, and losing that part of my identity threw me into a personal crisis of sorts. I was feeling very disillusioned with life. Little did I know that losing that job would end up being the impetus for an amazing, spiritual growth spurt. The book, Pain, Passion & Purpose, is a very personal chronicle of my own journey through that time and the revelations revealed within. At times it’s very raw and real – at other’s it’s almost magical. It began to take the shape of a how-to manual for getting back to the “real you.” It took me four years to write the book because it’s not just words but blood, sweat and tears. I had to live the lessons before they could be transcribed to the page.

VLB:   What do you think readers will get out of your book(s)?

MW:  I hope that it will offer people the comfort of knowing that they’re not alone in their struggles. We all have those private, vulnerable moments and they’re nothing to be ashamed of. In fact, I think if we would actually allow ourselves to listen to what they’re telling us, instead of chastising ourselves for feeling that way, we would be led to a better life. The book outlines a plan for expressing your whole being, mind, body and spirit, though the use of self-awareness, personal responsibility and Divine inspiration. In the end, it’s about accepting ourselves unconditionally, rediscovering the joyous abandon we had as children, and offering our unique gifts to the world.

VLB:   What are your other goals and aspirations? Do you have another book in the works?

MW:    Pain, Passion & Purpose was a snapshot in time of my own hardest breakthrough moments. Since that time, I feel like a different person. I’m no longer blocked and afraid to take chances – and I’m excited about life again. I’ve gone back to school and am now working as counselor helping people one-on-one, in addition to my writing. I have a couple of partially written manuscripts on my laptop that I will get around to finishing, but life is a learning process and I’ve spend the last few years studying the theories of some of history’s greatest minds. I know this information will add to the depth and integrity of these new projects. I’m excited to put all that I’ve learned to use.

VLB:   Can you tell us about your publishing process?

MW:    For Pain, Passion & Purpose I chose to self-publish in order to preserve the genuine nature of the project. This wasn’t a book written to reach a certain market or fit into a specific genre – it was a heartfelt message that was meant to be. I’ve ghostwritten for traditional publication, but this was a different animal and I knew that it was meant to stay that way, so I went with Createspace. Choosing to self-publish allowed me to control every aspect of the process. I won’t say it wasn’t challenging at times, handling the editing, formatting and cover design, but it was infinitely worth it. I’m proud of the book and pleased with the outcome.

VLB:   Do you have any upcoming events or promotions?

MW:    I am currently finishing up the final semesters of a Master’s program so I’m off the circuit until at least the fall.

VLB:   Where are people most likely to see your works at? 

MW:    Pain, Passion & Purpose is available on Amazon or it can be ordered through Barnes & Noble. Additionally, some libraries stock a copy from time to time.

VLB:   Do you have any advice for writers who want to become published authors?

MW:    Write as much as you can, in any way that you can. This helps to hone your craft and get the flow going that will be needed to bring that book to reality. Articles, short stories, editorials – whatever you can. Also, allot a daily time in your planner for writing your book. This is staggering but I read somewhere that 97% of writers never finish their book! Just keep plugging away and treat yourself with something special with the completion of each chapter. Even if you’re never a best-seller, just completing your book will put you in the coveted 3%.

VLB:   If you could be anything in the world, what would you be?

MW:    That’s tough. I suppose I would just say “a light.” Whether that means I’m informative, inspirational or simply pleasant, I believe that world needs more people who are willing, ready, and able to shine.

VLB:   What are your best tips for dealing with writer’s block and staying creative?

MW:    I think the best advice I ever heard came from writer Anne Lamott who said, “Give yourself permission to write the worst s**t in America.” Getting the words to the page is the hardest part. Once you have that, you can edit and refine it until it shines – but if doubt stops the process then you’ll end up nowhere. To me, creativity means taking chances. Try new things, expose yourself to new experiences. Allowing yourself to feel and experience all the facets of life will add depth and passion to your work.

VLB:   What keeps you busy these days? Editing, writing, family, etc?

MW:    I’ve been blessed with the opportunity to take on a second career with counseling. Yet to me, I don’t see this as a huge divergence from what I’ve been doing. My clients are seeking answers and a better of life, just like my readers. The only difference is that this time I can actually look them in the eye to see if the message is getting through. I’m also looking forward to doing some traveling in the coming years with my husband. The new me knows that there’s an adventure around every bend – and I want to experience as many of them as I can.

Marci, thank you for your time and advice.

To find Marci’s book, Pain, Passion & Purpose, please click on the link below.

https://www.amazon.com/Pain-Passion-Purpose-Escaping-Torment/dp/1475032544/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1484350426&sr=8-2&keywords=pain%2C+passion+%26+purpose

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving and Vid’s Viddles. Copyright© 2017 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2017 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

There’s Never Enough

An associate of mine recently shared a business idea with me. After he explained his idea he asked, “Is there too many people in the field? How can I succeed?” I would like to share with you all what I told him because many people struggle with the same question that he asked me.
Many people aren’t living out their goals and dreams because they feel there are too many people doing what they want to do. My answer to this type of thinking is, “There’s never enough”. It isn’t about how many people are doing the same thing you are doing; it’s about what you bring to the table.
Look and you will see thousands of motivational speakers and authors on social media. Should this stop someone from writing a book or posting motivational messages? No! The same goes for those wanting to become lawyers, doctors, athletes, artists, and pursuing any other endeavors. Don’t let numbers stop you from becoming who you want to be. Remember, we all have a story to share and we all inspire others differently. Your story, gifts, products, and services will touch others in ways that the next person isn’t about to do.
Just as there can never be enough love, wealth, success, and happiness; there can never be enough ideas, motivation, books, athletes, lawyers, doctors, entrepreneurs, and so on. It’s about putting your passion into whatever you decide to do and humbly realizing that no one else can do “it” like you do.

 

 

 

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving and Vid’s Viddles. Copyright© 2017 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2017 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

How Many Times Does A Heart Break?

How many times does a heart break?

Is a heart pieced back together, if so how?

Or, is a broken heart always broken and are we in denial?

Does one cry until their pain is not felt anymore mean their heart is mended?

Or, is it that they push their pain so far down that they have forgotten that their heart is broken?

They say time heals all.

Tell this to the souls who have seen death of a loved one many times.

Ask those whose heart was broken by a former love or one who has fell short of accomplishing their life’s dreams.

Does a broken heart keep breaking into pieces or does a heart turn cold?

Because with so much sadness in the world a heart cannot remain whole.

The only way a heart can keep breaking is by its broken pieces to be broken into more pieces

The only way a heart doesn’t feel pain is by the heart turning cold.

I ask you, can a heart once broken ever be made whole?

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving and Vid’s Viddles. Copyright© 2017 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2017 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

Mixing it Up and Getting Dirty with the Hottest DJ in the Game.

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Diana Hawkes is a beautiful ambitious go getter who is turning heads all around the country. Captivating ears with her musical blends is just one reason all eyes and ears are staying tuned to her every move.  Dirty Di isn’t your average DJ; the Hampton, VA native has a drive that is unmatched and is dead serious about building her empire.  Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr. and 4-U-Nique Publishing goes one-on-on and gets dirty with this unique DJ to learn the keys to her success.

 

VLBJ:  What inspired you to become a DJ?

DJ Dirty Di: My dad and brother inspired me to be a DJ; they both used to DJ. I would attend the events with them and perform dance moves while they were on stage.

VLBJ:  You are in an industry that is male dominated. You being a lady DJ and a successful one at that is pretty unique; how did you overcome any obstacles you may have faced on your journey?

DJ Dirty Di: Well a lot of the males in the DJ industry have helped me become the DJ I am today.  The only obstacle I’ve faced so far is guys trying to mix business with pleasure, but that’s it.

VLBJ:  If someone wanted to become a DJ, what advice would you offer them?

DJ Dirty Di: I would say learn about the craft and all of the equipment you would need first.  Then watch DJ tutorials on YouTube, if you don’t know any DJ that can teach you some techniques.

VLBJ: I’m a huge Nas fan probably the biggest one you’ll ever meet. Who’s your favorite Hip Hop artist?

DJ Dirty Di: My favorite Hip Hop artist is Nas.  I’ve been a fan since 93′, so I don’t if you’re the biggest fan or not, lol.

VLBJ:  What other music genres are you interested in?

DJ Dirty DI: I love all music but my favs are R & B and Hip Hop. I also like Pop, Go-Go, Reggae and Country music.

VLBJ:  They call you DJ Dirty Di? How did you get the name Dirty?

DJ Dirty Di: I got the name Dirty from the Michael Jackson song “Dirty Diana“. My real name is Diana; I was named after Diana Ross, the same person MJ wrote the song about lol. Once that song came out it was a wrap because everyone called me Dirty after that. I’m nothing like the song though, lol.

VLBJ:  If you could be anything in the world what would you be?

DJ Dirty Di: I would be exactly what I am, A DJ!

VLBJ:  If you could work with or have a conversation with anybody past, present, or in the future, who would they be?

DJ Dirty Di: I would love to work with Nas, Angie Martinez, Taraji P. Henson, Big Tigger, Beyonce, Karen Civil, and Rihanna.

VLBJ:  What kind of books do you like to read?

DJ Dirty Di: I love to read anything about the Hip-Hop Culture, Urban Fiction, and Astrology.

VLBJ:  What’s the last book you read?

DJ Dirty Di: The last book I read was The 48 Laws of Power.

VLBJ:  I have a few of your mixtapes; have to tell you I love them. What is your method to putting together a successful mixtape?

DJ Dirty Di: Thank you so much for downloading my mixtape.  I really appreciate it.  My method to putting together a mixtape is coming up with a name for the mixtape and then finding songs that can relate to the title.

VLBJ:  Where can our followers find your mixtapes?

DJ Dirty Di: All of my mixtapes can be found on my website www.DJDIRTYDI.com.  They can also be found on Mixcloud, AudioMack, and a couple are on Datpiff; just search DJ DIRTY DI.

VLBJ:  Where can we hear you DJ?

DJ Dirty Di: You can hear me DJ on CheeseTownRadio.com every Sunday from 1pm-3pm by downloading the CheeseTown Radio app or listening on www.CheeseTownRadio.com.  I spin at various locations and they are all posted on my Instagram page @DJDIRTYDI

VLBJ:  Do you have any upcoming events or promotions?

DJ Dirty Di: The next upcoming event I have will be the 4th Annual Heartbeat Gala at Half Moone in Norfolk,VA, on Friday, February 3, 2017.  I’m dropping my calendar and my Love Below vol. 2 mixtape in February.  My new TV show “Dirty’s Den” comes out in March on VAMTV.com.

VLBJ:  What are goals do you have for the New Year?

DJ Dirty Di: My goals for the New Year are to drop a mixtape every month, launch my new TV show, and work on my brand.

VLBJ:  Where can your fans follow you? Do you have a website and any social media profiles?

DJ Dirty Di: Yes, fans can follow me on Instagram, Twitter, and SnapChat by following DJ Dirty Di. My Facebook name is Diana “DJ Dirty Di’ Nicole and can like my DJ Dirty Di page.  My website is www.DJDIRTYDI.com

VLBJ:  What message do you want to leave anyone reading this interview with?

DJ Dirty Di: You can do anything you set your mind to.  Don’t let anyone discourage you from your plan and NEVER give up.

 

Don’t Forget to Download the DJ Dirty Di App Now from Google Play or the App Store!!

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Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving. Copyright© 2017 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2017 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

Book Spotlight

Most of you all know that I am starting a Spotlight about unique people, products, and services. Being that I recently released my third book titled, Vid’s Viddles, I felt it was only right that this blog post spotlight my book. Hope you enjoy.

 

VID LAMONTE’ BUGGS JR. AND 4-U-NIQUE PUBLISHING RELEASE ‘VID’S VIDDLES’

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr., a modern Renaissance Man with a unique perspective and a broad range of interests and talents, from writing and editing, to philanthropy and artistic engagements, this week teamed up with 4-U-Nique Publishing to release his next prolific story: Vid’s Viddles: Daily Vitamins for the Soul. The book was officially released on January 17, 2017 for purchase at all major book retailers.

 

Vid’s Viddles, an eye-opening story of freedom, insight, and wholesome joy, provides the reader with a point of view containing no filters. It’s designed to be the most honest, profound, and clarifying piece of literature anyone picks up in 2017.

 

“This is a collection of short motivational pieces that offers words of wisdom about life, love, spirit, leadership, friendship, pain, fear, happiness, and so many more emotions,” said Buggs. “Vid’s Viddles is designed to serve as a source of support, inspiration, and motivational growth for anyone enduring hardship, doubt, or stunted self growth.”

 

Buggs is an athlete, scholar, entrepreneur, philanthropist, author, speaker, poet, consultant, volunteer, and everything in between on a daily basis. His passions rest with bringing people together, encouraging them to look past their differences to unite and make the world a better place. Vid’s lifestyle philosophy is that perseverance coupled with infallible positivity makes for a heart for a love that can never be thrown off course by doubt and negativity.

 

Author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving, Getting Out of the Dark: How to Have a Life Full of Success, Wealth, and Happiness, and now Vid’s Viddles, Buggs also manages and founded 4-U-Nique Publishing, a diverse literary publishing company created to provide an avenue to authorship for writers of every type and background.

 

“The secret to life is – there really is no secret,” said Buggs. “That’s what my stories seek to illustrate for everyone afraid they missed the mark or haven’t found their calling yet. Vid’s Viddles is here to inspire a deep-founded personal growth in people of all ages, and I’m asking everyone to spread the word about its official availability as of January 17, 2017.”

 

Vid’s Viddles serves to inspire growth through tough times, helping both adults and teens stay vital and in love with life, savoring the beauty that each unique day brings.

 

The new book is available both in Kindle and Paperback format now on Amazon.com.

 

To purchase Vid’s Viddles, visit: https://www.amazon.com/Vids-Viddles-Daily-Vitamins-Soul-ebook/dp/B01N31MT5A/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1484670988&sr=8-1.

 

For more information on Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr., visit: http://www.vidbuggs.com/.

 

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Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving. Copyright© 2016 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2016 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

How to Make the”New Year, New Me” Chant into a Reality?

It’s a New Year and we all hear the chants of “New Year, New Me”. Many of us have made New Year Resolutions. History tells us by the third week of the New Year, many of our resolutions will be broken and the chant of “New Year, New Me” becomes a chant of “I’ll become a New Me next year”.

What is the reason many of us fail to live up to our New Year resolutions and goals? Well for starters, many of us fail to realize that a New Year doesn’t bring change to a person’s life. Change happens in a person’s life when they focus on changing daily. How can one change daily? Simple, you have to make daily goals and plans.  We also have to remember old habits die hard. It takes 21 days to break a habit.

Many of us will abort our plans of change because we do not see immediate results. In order for growth to happen, one must be patient. Sow your seeds and remember seeds grow underneath the surface where it cannot be seen. Trees only begin to grow above the surface when the roots below the surface are strong enough to support the tree’s growth.

Plant your daily seeds and by year’s end your seeds and you will grow to become the person you envisioned you would become.

Here are a few things we must do to make 2017 great.

1). Live each day as if it’s your last.

2). Plan for the future, live for the present.

3). Learn from the past and don’t look back.

4). Let your passion guide you.

5). Remember there are lessons learned in our struggles.

6). Stay in your lane. (Mind and tend to your business).

7). Give more. This includes money, talents, time, advice, a helping hand or a listening ear.

8). Let all disputes (beefs) go. Especially if you are 30 plus. If you cannot get along with someone just distance yourself from them.

9). Don’t worry about who others are dating. You aren’t with these people, so why stress over someone who is dating outside of their race, dating someone of the same sex, or someone dating someone with or without money.

10). Cherish everyone who has walked into your life; even if it was for a moment. You may not realize it but these people have taught you valuable lessons in life.

11). Be happy and thankful.

Happy New Year.

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving. Copyright© 2016 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2016 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

How a Broken Laptop Screen Became a Blessing           

It’s the Saturday after Thanksgiving Day. I am working on ideas for my soon to be released book’s cover as I am stuffing my face. As I get up to place my plate into the kitchen I trip over a cord. I hear a soft “plattt”. I already knew what fell; I started praying before I could even turn and look at the object that fell.  I turned to pick up my fallen laptop and I saw that the LCD screen is crack. I became sad because I knew I would have to wait at least a day to get a new laptop or my laptop repaired. Thankfully my laptop had a “3-year extended warranty.”

If you know me you know I am goal driven and I love to stay productive. Not having a laptop meant I couldn’t do much work at home. The first day without a functioning laptop, I soon saw how much I took having a laptop for granted. You can do many things with a smartphone and tablet, but the most sophisticated tasks are needed to be performed by using a laptop. After this realization I started to become depressed, which has only happened a handful of times in my life. Feeling discouraged, plans broken, and a change in my routine led me to sleep most of my Sunday away.

After I woke up from sleeping most of the day away, I started to realize how much a blessing being without a laptop momentarily would be. For starters, I normally do not sleep much so I guess sleeping most of the day away was much needed. I now could spend some much needed valuable time with my family. Reading is one of my favorite things to do and I do read daily, but now I could read and not feel rushed because I had to do work on the laptop.

I soon realized I had time to go back to the essence and revise my business plans, business goals, and life goals. I also found that I had more time to reflect and meditate.  This things led me to remember why I do all that I do; where my passions lie, and how to better implement my strategies to accomplish all goals. I learned that these strategies can only be carried out if I am not spending majority of my time behind a laptop. Sad that it took a broken laptop screen for me to become aware of this fact. Everything happens for a reason; I guess the laptop had to break so I could remember my present blessings and become more aware of my future blessings.

 

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving. Copyright© 2016 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2016 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

 

Passion and Perfection: It’s What Keeps Me Up At Night

 

Why am I up at this hour?  Why can I never seem to get to bed at a decent time? Insomnia, I have battled insomnia since I was a youth. My insomnia isn’t caused by stress. My insomnia is a result of my passion and my steady journey to perfection.  Yes, I know perfection is something we cannot accomplish; however, my drive to become perfect is a goal of always improving.  I am in competition with myself and this competition doesn’t end until I leave this earth. My competition with myself only takes a pause when exhaustion takes over and I am able to fall asleep.

Why am I so competitive? Well I believe a person should only take part in something only when they are prepared to give their best. I also believe we can always learn and improve in all areas of our lives.  One can go to the best schools all over the world but life is and always will be the best teacher.  As long as I live my passion is to learn and figure out life.  I do not do anything half-heartedly; either I’m all in or I’m not in at all. This is why I stay woke most of the night after a game contemplating the areas of my game that I need to improve. Or strategizing a game plan, practice plans, business moves, or how I can change the world.

Is it my passion(s) which makes me so competitive or is me competitiveness which creates my passion(s)? Does my competitiveness drive me to being a perfectionist or does me being a perfectionist make me competitive? I’m not sure but I can tell you my passions are what drive me to train mind, body, and soul to be the best I can be. While others are sleeping or partying, I am doing what it takes to continue to get ahead. Anyone who says they aren’t in competition with anyone else isn’t being truthful to themselves. Life is one big competition. We want the best for our families and friends. We want to be the best prepared for any given situation. We compete for jobs, we compete in sports, we compete for views on social media and we compete for product sales (books, business, etc.). Most of all we compete with ourselves.

Fueled by people who told me I couldn’t achieve each one of my goals, I set out to crush all naysayers and even the doubts in my mind. I think everyone is fueled by people who doubted them. Yet, I don’t think others are honest about this fact. Being in denial makes one sleep easier at night, I suppose. However, while they are in denial and sleeping, its people like me who are up facing our fears and fighting the doubts in our minds. If we were to give in to our fears and doubts then we would lose our passion. We would lose our competitiveness; our will to learn and improve.

You ask me why I am so competitive. I’m competitive because if I don’t fight for perfection within myself, how can I fight to change the world, how can I inspire those who have no hope, how can I tell people that the doubters and the doubts in their minds are wrong? You ask me what my passions are. My passions are to be the best I can be in all areas of my life. My passions are to provide a better world for my family, friends, and all creation; whether it’s through writing, speaking, business, basketball, or being the best person I can be.   For every talent given there come responsibilities. I have many talents and my responsibility is to share them with the world the best I can, so I can inspire the next great mind.

Still don’t understand why I hardly sleep? Why I’m up while others are getting their rest? Passion and Perfection fuels me.

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving. Copyright© 2016 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2016 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

The Agony of Defeat

Success and Winning, everyone wants them but why aren’t more people winning and succeeding?  Simple, the average person fear failure; they let their fear of failure stop them from attempting to accomplish their dreams and goals.  Most people don’t understand that the only way someone fails is by not trying.

I love by the motto, “You win some and you learn some”.  This motto helps me face my fears and understand that failure isn’t an option. If I come up short on achieving a goal (which doesn’t happen much), I know a lesson can be learned from my shortcoming. I also understand that my shortcoming is a starting point of another journey and more opportunities.

We all have shortcomings and times in our lives where we feel defeated.  It is important to understand a defeat isn’t failing, and a defeat is only a setup for something great.  If you follow my videos, blogs, and social media, you hear me talk about “Embracing the process” and “Adversity brings Prosperity” (trademark pending).  I am not afraid to share my life experiences as examples of how defeat can turn into something great if one doesn’t give up.

In my basketball career I was cut in high school and waived by teams in my semi-pro/pro career.  Each time instead of giving up, I worked harder to improve my skills and most my attitude/temper.  I wasn’t ever afraid to ask the coach or General Manager why I wasn’t on the team. I took their criticism and used it as fuel to improve.  Many times those teams always came back and wanted to sign me. This brought many other opportunities.  If I would have thought of these experiences as failures and gave up after having these experiences, where would I be now?  One thing I can say is, I most likely would be afraid to take risks. I wouldn’t have experienced many of the life, business, basketball, and writing experiences I’ve been blessed to have.

I have lost a lot of money in my short life due to helping others.  Instead of being bitter, hateful and blaming others, I looked at the lessons I needed to learn from my actions.  I learned I needed to be more careful who I “loaned” money to, I learned how to make smart investments, and I learned the value of saying “no” and how saying “no” doesn’t make you a bad person.

Sure taking losses hurts, however, it’s in those small defeats that sets a person up for success.  One just has to be willing to fly and not worrying about falling out of the sky (failing).  One must be willing to go through the agony of defeat, so they can enjoy the thrill of victory.

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving. Copyright© 2016 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2016 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

Be Careful What You Wish For  

 

Success; Opportunities; Being a Leader; Making a Difference in the World is what we strive for in life, right? With each blessing and accomplishment come great responsibilities.  Lately, more and more opportunities have been coming my way. My businesses are growing; speaking and writing requests are coming daily; basketball season is in full swing, so everyday I’m either coaching or playing.  Seem like everything is coming at me fast. Time spent with family and friends is never long enough.  No complaints because this is what I asked for. With success comes sacrifice.

In according to be successful and to be a leader, you must do what others aren’t willing to do. Many want to be a boss, a world leader, a coach, but many do not know what goes on behind the scenes. People do not understand how a leader is really a servant to the people; to their employees; to their players.  Long hours goes into planning, organizing, research, answering emails, setting up meetings, networking, and going to events.  While others see the glamour in being successful, being a leader, and making a difference in the world; many do not understand the sacrifices one has to make to be a success or to have opportunities follow them.

There are people who want to live the life of success, opportunities, being a leader, a public figure, or wealthy; however, they aren’t willing to do what it takes to be successful.  Let’s look at coaching for example. Many people think all you have to do as a coach is to tell players what to do on the court/field. That is the easy part. There are people who think they should have my coaching position, yet they aren’t willing to do the things that it takes to run a basketball program. I am in charge of over 30 players (Middle, JV, Varsity), which means I have to answer and respond to emails from each of those 30 players parents. I have to oversee plans for player and level.  The same people who feel they would be a better coach are people who don’t want to answer emails, go to other school events to raise support for the program, and have regular meetings with the Athletic Director and Headmaster.

Starting and running a business, being an author, and a public figure is much like being a coach/head of a sports program. Research, planning, organization, marketing, networking, going to events, and doing what is best for others even when it means putting yourself last, isn’t high on a lot of people’s lists of priorities; however, these things are needed to be successful. If you want to have opportunities follow you and achieve goals, you must do what others aren’t willing to do.  If you aren’t willing to sacrifice, be careful for what you wish for, because your gift of opportunities and success can easily turn into a curse.

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving. Copyright© 2016 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2016 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.