Welcome Back

It has been a long time since I blogged. I have good reasons though. I had to figure out what direction I wanted to go as far as my life, writings, endeavors, and social media presences go. I was being pulled in many directions by family, friends, my assistants, and peers. I am sure many of them didn’t mean any harm; however, being a person who doesn’t like to disappoint others and as I person who loves to stay true to himself, you (the reader) can see where my dilemma lied.

Let me just say, at this moment, I am in the best place that I ever have been in my life. Sure like everyone, I have my struggles; however, mentally, spiritually, emotionally, physically, business-wise, I am in a space that I’ve haven’t been before and it is hard to explain. I will say that everything is in sync and everything is balanced.

How did I get here? While it was Memorial Day weekend of this year (2019). I was going through a rough time. I had gotten tired of people trying to put me in a box and people only reaching out when they needed something. I got tired of being the person who checked on everyone who was in my contact list while no more than five people called or texted me to see if I was “good”.  Simply put, I got tired of wasting energy and in a sense being there for people at the cost of my time, energy, and well-being. It was a conversion with someone who I considered a close friend that put things in perspective. The conversion went like this:

Them: “Hey, I want to go to the beach. Come let’s go”

Me: ” I wish I could. I’m a little fucked up right now. I don’t have any money to spend, I’m having car issues, and I have to deal with some other issues.”

Them: “Ok, I’ll talk to you later”

I was hurt. I didn’t expect anyone to solve my issues, but I did expect a person who I have been the ear to their issues for years to at least not rush off the phone when I told them I was going through something.

On Memorial Day, I expected to go to one of the beautiful beaches that we have here in Florida; however, The Most High had a different plan. The Spirit told me to just lay. Then the Spirit said, “Don’t you worry about cutting anyone or anything off. They will cut themselves out of your life. What is for you is for you. What is not, will be moved out of your life. Don’t worry about a thing.” This day I did an impromptu fast, I didn’t talk to anyone, eat or drink anything; I just laid in a meditative state.

I have to admit that I did get a test that day. Right after the Spirit told me that people would cut themselves out my life, my phone rung and it was that “friend” on the other end. I know you are saying, “but Vid I thought you didn’t speak with anyone the whole day?” I didn’t! This is what happened:

Phone Rings and picks up. Before I could say a word. The “friend” goes right into her “issues” and all the drama that is around “them”. This went on for about 5 to 10 minutes. Why did I stay on the line? Because I wanted to see if “this friend” was going to see how I was doing or were they actually cutting their self out of my life. Well, when “the friend” got to their destination, they abruptly said, “I’m arrived at where I’m going, I called to see how you were. I’ll talk to you later.”  Two things, they didn’t even see how I was doing and I haven’t spoken to this person since. The weight has been lifted.

Funny thing is this event brought me to partnering on another business endeavor with my cousin. Although, I had some rough patches throughout the summer; brakes going out as I was driving on the Interstate, being so tired that I had to pull on the side of the road to sleep, deaths in the family, and troubles with the new business venture, my life as been refreshed.  Through all the troubles and success, people, events, and things that aren’t supposed to be on the journey to where I am going have cut themselves out of my life, I didn’t have to do a thing but continue to stay focused. Life has balanced itself out and I’m on a mission to make an impact in this world, build a legacy for my family, and just live my purpose.

Things that can only be achieved by using your energy and time on things that are beneficial to your growth. Sometimes you have to be selfish to be selfless. How can you help others if you are unable to help yourself? How can you love others if you don’t love yourself?

Why am I sharing this with you (the reader)? I’m sharing because you have things and people in your life that are bringing you down and they need to be let go so you can live your true purpose in life. Letting go is challenging because it means you have to travel outside of your comfort zone and leave things that you are used to; things that you think you aren’t able to leave behind. I’m here to tell you that life is much simpler when you get rid of what isn’t beneficial to you and others. Things that aren’t beneficial to you doesn’t mean that that thing, activity, or person is negative. It means that they aren’t adding any value to your life, time, or energy; they aren’t helping you grow.

Yes, I am back, but I titled this blog “Welcome Back” because I want you to get back to the living your true purpose and getting back to a life of balance.

XXX

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Life is short

The only certainty in Life is Death.

Is Death a part of Life

Or is Life a part of Death?

Only thing I’m sure of is we lost too many too young

Robbing us of future memories together

While leaving us of past memories.

Life is short

And Death is a friend we don’t want to see soon.

Let’s not fear Death

Or take life for granted.

We should use our time living to the fullest

But take time to reflect on moments passed.

Life is short

But a Life of Regrets is a long Life to live.

So tell your loved ones you love them

Spend your time wisely

And don’t waste your life living in fear

Or being unhappy.

Life is short

So why waste it hating others?

Death is certain

So why not leave a positive Legacy behind?

Time is all that we are given

So why not be a Blessing to the world

Before our time runs out?

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Until I’m Starving, Getting Out of the Dark: How to Live a Life Full of Success, Wealth, and Happiness, and Vid’s Viddles: Daily Vitamins for the Soul, all available here

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My Most Embarrassing Moments: There’s a Silver Lining After All.

There aren’t many times in my life where I’ve been embarrassed about something. The few times I have usually came due to my dad yelling, “Boy you better get in this house”, in front of my friends.  I never got too embarrassed or angry with my dad, because deep down I knew he was only saving me from some kind of trouble.  Then there was the time when I was in the 11th grade and I was friends with a young lady who was in college.  One night we were talking on the phone and my calling card ran out. I figured she remembered the rule of, “don’t call me after 11 pm”.  I thought I was safe, so I went to shower and get ready for bed; lo and behold, the phone rings.  I picked up but something was odd, my mom didn’t yell, “Who is calling here at this time of night?”  I must’ve got cocky because I didn’t rush off the phone and it was now almost midnight.  All a sudden I hear someone pick up the phone and before I could say goodbye and save face, my mom is on the phone saying, “You know what time it is? Get off this phone.” Silence! I hear a click and I knew deep down I would never talk to Angelica ever again. I was slightly embarrassed but I was more relieved than anything.  Angelica was a freshman at East Carolina University, who I happened to meet while trying to get her number for my friend. She was more interested in me. She knew I was in high school still, she just thought I was a senior, haha.  I never bothered to correct her because 1) what teenage guy is going to pass up a chance to date a college woman. 2) She was going to school 2 1/2 hours away; which is a long distance when you are in HS. Anyway, my mom saved me the having to tell Angelica I didn’t graduate when June came around because I was only going to the 12th grade.

My most embarrassing moment happened when I was in the 7th grade.  My middle school building was two stories and the entire 7th grade was upstairs.  I hated this because the only time we went downstairs was for lunch, gym, our electives (maybe), and to go home.  Any chance I got to go downstairs I would savor it and take my time getting back to class. One of these days, I was asked to take our class attendance down to the main office. “Oh Joy! I am out this joint.”  As I head downstairs, I decide to channel my intra Tom Cruise from “Risky Business”. (Although, I never seen the movie at that point of my life, I did see ads with the clip of Tom Cruise sliding down the banister from the movie).  I jumped on the banister and slide down but there’s one issue, I’m going way too fast.  I try to land on my feet when I touch the ground but my momentum was too fast. I slid half-way the 8th grade hall. I get up everything is great, no one saw me. Then I hear laughing; I look back and see the whole 8th grade class looking and laughing at me. Even the 8th grade teachers were laughing at me.  I just turned and head to the main office.  Good thing was I didn’t have to face the 8th grade class as I went back to my class. Maybe they will forget what they saw. Nope!!

As I went to lunch that day many of the 8th graders got their laughs on at my expense.  When we came back from lunch, my friend has a note for me.  The note read, “Hi Vid, I saw you sliding down the hall this morning, I think you handled it well. I also think you are cute and I would like you to call me…..”  “Hotdog!  I just got a girlfriend off of the most embarrassing moment of my life”.

From that moment, I always looked for the silver-lining in every situation and I hardly get embarrassed because I always see the bigger picture.

 

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving. Copyright© 2016 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2016 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.

Relationship Status?: It’s Complicated

Years ago, I joined Facebook to stay in touch with family and friends. Once in a while I’d post a positive message as a “status” update or post a “note”. Remember “notes”? Facebook and I share an on again, off again relationship.  I went private on “the book”, yet, damn Mark keep changing the privacy settings. I can call him Mark right? He and his addicting service understands me more than I understand myself.

How does “FB” know that I know Amber or Tom and suggests them as “Friends who I may know”? Who knew Amber, Tom and I attended the same hospital nursery on the same day we all were born. Amber, Tom and I haven’t seen each other since we were 1-day-olds. Mark how did you know I would love this new product that was invented yesterday? You slick dog, you.

Due to your invasive intrusion into my life, I had to step away from this relationship we share. Twitter was more my liking because I could post my thoughts without questions asked or being “poked”. Has anyone found out what’s the true purpose of a “poke”? Sorry, let me get back on track.

I then fell in love with Instagram. Remember “IG” was only for Iphone users? I was starting an exclusive relationship with Instagram. Until I found out “IG” was cheating on me and getting in the bed with Facebook. Facebook, your acquisition of Instagram was the start of a love triangle.

Mark you have me back. I figure I can use Facebook to promote my books, company, and post “status” and video to make others think. Now you tell me I need an author page (Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr.), and a company page (4-U-Nique Publishing) to promote my services and products. (Inserts shameless plug, Go Check Me Out). Very crafty Mark, you have sucked me into having 3 Facebook pages.

Mark, now you have my attention. I will tell you what I see in the Facebook “neighborhood”. As I walk down the street, I see friends who I were once close. These friends are people of different backgrounds and ethnicities. Some people have let their racist and prejudice views come to light in this “neighborhood” due to being able to hide behind a screen. Next, I see those who think they are “holier than thou”, and others who want to be “thugs”. I guess they forget we know who they are.

Across the street are the intellects, and those who are pushing their services, products and businesses. The intellects and the small business owners receive minimal likes and shares. Meanwhile, their next-door neighbors receive hundreds of likes and shares on fight videos and hate speeches they post.

I walk towards my house to post a status update and I see what appears to be a Postal truck. The truck stops near me, someone sends me another game invite! To get to my door, I have to check all of my messages, friend requests (who are these people) and notifications. Most of these notifications are from people who I don’t know. They are just replying to a post I liked.

Damn you Facebook, you are like the drug dealer who keeps supplying us with the product we know isn’t good for us, but we can’t do without.

 

Vid Lamonte’ Buggs Jr is the author of You Ain’t Hungry Until I’m Starving. Copyright© 2016 http://www.vidbuggs.com. Copyright © 2016 http://www.4-U-NiquePublishing.com. Material is copyrighted but free to repost with proper listed credit, including our website addresses.