It has been a long time since I blogged. I have good reasons though. I had to figure out what direction I wanted to go as far as my life, writings, endeavors, and social media presences go. I was being pulled in many directions by family, friends, my assistants, and peers. I am sure many of them didn’t mean any harm; however, being a person who doesn’t like to disappoint others and as I person who loves to stay true to himself, you (the reader) can see where my dilemma lied.
Let me just say, at this moment, I am in the best place that I ever have been in my life. Sure like everyone, I have my struggles; however, mentally, spiritually, emotionally, physically, business-wise, I am in a space that I’ve haven’t been before and it is hard to explain. I will say that everything is in sync and everything is balanced.
How did I get here? While it was Memorial Day weekend of this year (2019). I was going through a rough time. I had gotten tired of people trying to put me in a box and people only reaching out when they needed something. I got tired of being the person who checked on everyone who was in my contact list while no more than five people called or texted me to see if I was “good”. Simply put, I got tired of wasting energy and in a sense being there for people at the cost of my time, energy, and well-being. It was a conversion with someone who I considered a close friend that put things in perspective. The conversion went like this:
Them: “Hey, I want to go to the beach. Come let’s go”
Me: ” I wish I could. I’m a little fucked up right now. I don’t have any money to spend, I’m having car issues, and I have to deal with some other issues.”
Them: “Ok, I’ll talk to you later”
I was hurt. I didn’t expect anyone to solve my issues, but I did expect a person who I have been the ear to their issues for years to at least not rush off the phone when I told them I was going through something.
On Memorial Day, I expected to go to one of the beautiful beaches that we have here in Florida; however, The Most High had a different plan. The Spirit told me to just lay. Then the Spirit said, “Don’t you worry about cutting anyone or anything off. They will cut themselves out of your life. What is for you is for you. What is not, will be moved out of your life. Don’t worry about a thing.” This day I did an impromptu fast, I didn’t talk to anyone, eat or drink anything; I just laid in a meditative state.
I have to admit that I did get a test that day. Right after the Spirit told me that people would cut themselves out my life, my phone rung and it was that “friend” on the other end. I know you are saying, “but Vid I thought you didn’t speak with anyone the whole day?” I didn’t! This is what happened:
Phone Rings and picks up. Before I could say a word. The “friend” goes right into her “issues” and all the drama that is around “them”. This went on for about 5 to 10 minutes. Why did I stay on the line? Because I wanted to see if “this friend” was going to see how I was doing or were they actually cutting their self out of my life. Well, when “the friend” got to their destination, they abruptly said, “I’m arrived at where I’m going, I called to see how you were. I’ll talk to you later.” Two things, they didn’t even see how I was doing and I haven’t spoken to this person since. The weight has been lifted.
Funny thing is this event brought me to partnering on another business endeavor with my cousin. Although, I had some rough patches throughout the summer; brakes going out as I was driving on the Interstate, being so tired that I had to pull on the side of the road to sleep, deaths in the family, and troubles with the new business venture, my life as been refreshed. Through all the troubles and success, people, events, and things that aren’t supposed to be on the journey to where I am going have cut themselves out of my life, I didn’t have to do a thing but continue to stay focused. Life has balanced itself out and I’m on a mission to make an impact in this world, build a legacy for my family, and just live my purpose.
Things that can only be achieved by using your energy and time on things that are beneficial to your growth. Sometimes you have to be selfish to be selfless. How can you help others if you are unable to help yourself? How can you love others if you don’t love yourself?
Why am I sharing this with you (the reader)? I’m sharing because you have things and people in your life that are bringing you down and they need to be let go so you can live your true purpose in life. Letting go is challenging because it means you have to travel outside of your comfort zone and leave things that you are used to; things that you think you aren’t able to leave behind. I’m here to tell you that life is much simpler when you get rid of what isn’t beneficial to you and others. Things that aren’t beneficial to you doesn’t mean that that thing, activity, or person is negative. It means that they aren’t adding any value to your life, time, or energy; they aren’t helping you grow.
Yes, I am back, but I titled this blog “Welcome Back” because I want you to get back to the living your true purpose and getting back to a life of balance.
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